Sorry for you loss.

The main things I remember about my d&c is signing the medical admission and consent form and the question - do you think you may be pregnant. That just devestated me as I was still in a semi-denial state and shocked. I was just going through the motions. I'm not sure if you've already done that yet?

As RoryRory said, the procedure is fairly painless, although if you haven't been in hospital before you may find it all a little daunting - I know I did. They'll first go through your paperwork, check your BP etc and confirm you know what you are there for. I then got a quick chat to the anethetist who checks if you are on any medication, have allergies etc. You may then have to wait until it's your turn. For me, I waited a little while in a waiting room, then went to a pre-admission room where I was given a bed and a nice warm blanket.

As for the pants/pad, I wasn't bleeding but I was provided a pant that was paper like that tied up on the side, so that may be an option. They obviously remove it once you are under.

I do recall feeling really lonely and sad when I was in recovery, until DH came and got me and took me home. In recovery, in my experiences, they will offer food and drink to see that you can handle it as part of the recovery process.

I hope this information helps you to understand the process as it's new to you. Good luck. Take care afterwards with your emotions. Again as RoryRory said, it can hit hard afterwards as your hormones re-balance.