Feeling pysically sick after finding out somone in particular is Pg

[JellyBean]

Your emotional reaction sounds perfectly normal Tanya. Just because you are sad doesn't mean you are not happy for her - of course you are. But it is lovely to be pregnant at the same time as others you know, and you are probably partially mourning the loss of this bonding experience as well as the loss of the baby.

I am in the exact reverse situation and it is very hard for me to come to terms with;
my SIL and I had our first babies within weeks of each other - it was so fantastic to both be pregnant at the same time as we did not expect it. When I announced my BFP with 2#in March I could see she was happy for me but longed to be in my boat. DH and I were saying prayers that she would soon conceive. A month or so later we got her excited announcement. We both had problem-free first pregnancies so shared our news with each other relatively early. I was so excited to have my belly buddy on board again, and that our second bubs would be so close yet again.

Just last week we received a very sad announcement.....her baby appeared to have 'not formed properly' when they went for the scan, and the outcome would be bleak.
I was so devastated when she told me - it all just seemed so perfect. And now when I see her every week at family dinner I feel awful, like I want to hide my bump so as not to remind her of her loss. When people ask me questions about the pregnancy in front of her I shrug them off as though I am indifferent towards it. I hate to think that I may be causing her more pain. It sucks either way you look at it. Life can be so cruel....
I just hope you both get sticky BFP's soon!!