Hello to all and BettyBlue in particular,

I had my appointment today and managed to get through without shedding a tear! Unbelieveable...

Basically the obstetrician said he had run all the appropriate tests on the "remains" after the d and c and everything was normal. Weird, I didn't know they ran these tests and I'm really glad as it is reassuring to know there isn't anything major that caused the mc. Turns out to simply be a blighted ovum, as he put it "It's just bad luck and your number came up". That might sound harsh but it was also reassuring to me. He was encouraging to just try again and see him in a few weeks when i'm pregnant (that simple?).

I told him about my horrible depression since the mc and how my GP was keen for me to start anti-depressants - he was not encouraging me to do this, rather saying the hormonal drop and huge loss was enough to give anyone depression and I just needed to grieve and work through it. Strangely this was also encouraging - yes we go through hell having a miscarriage - let us scream and rant and rave and carry on - it's normal!

I asked him questions about my polycystic ovaries and whether that may have caused the mc and he was adamant it didn't have anything to do with it.

So I've just been to the chemist to get the thermometer to start charting the temp (never done it before). Hope to have a good chance when my cycles start behaving normally again. Ever in hope, feeling more optimistic that we will eventually have a little baby join our family some day.