When we first lost Caterpillar back in July I had a lot of people pressuring me to do something to remember him by. The typical suggestion was a plant... but I am the kiss of death to all things green and simply can't keep plants alive - so completely NOT an option to remember my dearly loved and much wanted baby that couldn't stay. Apart from that, we rent and will not live her permanently, so I needed something that wasn't going to be permanently fixed in the ground.

It's taken a lot of thinking and a lot of searching, but I have finally discovered the perfect thing to do.

I know I can't post the link, but if anyone is interested, google "my forever child". It is a website that makes jewelry to commemorate miscarriages and lost pregnancies as well as lost children. They have several different bracelet designs that can be customised using birth stones to represent the months of conception, loss and when our angel babies would have been due. They also have several different charms to symbolise different elements.

I have come up with a charm bracelet design for my Caterpillar that will remember the month he was created and frozen as an embryo, the month he was transferred and miraculously came to life inside me, the month we lost him, and the month he would have been due to enter this world.

I have gained an amazing sense of peace in finally deciding what I am going to do, even though I haven't even ordered the bracelet yet. I thought that this may help others in the same boat and wanted to share.

I also discovered a few other sites that do similar things, but this was the one that worked best for me. I can give their names also if anyone is interested.

BW