I STILL have issues with my mother 3 years after losing Nikita. Not as bad as that your SIL needs a good smack in the back of her head. I would have been ROPABLE if someone did that to me over Nikita I swear there would have been bloodied noses and black eyes.

As far as your DH is concerned he needs a good kick up the bum. You and he need to get on the same page as there are LOTS of marriages that breakdown and break up after a loss of a baby. My DH changed completely and stoped being a Mummies boy after our loss because I told him that if he could not support me regardless of whether he likeed it or not, I would leave him as I was better off grieving on my own than having to deal with all the other crap as well.

Do you have a friend you could stay with for a few days just to give you both some space?

I am not sure when you lost your little one, I try to avoid that section of forum as its very painful but I think seeing a counsellor even on your own would be a good thing, Venting to someone else who has their own way of grieving can be very difficult and you really need to be strong for each other.

If your SIL cannot see past herself, well she has shown you her true colours and I say its no loss she sounds like a disrespectful cow. Your DH and her I take it are family and they say bloods thicker than water so I would be very careful about discussing anything with him about her until AFTER you yourself have been through counselling.

hun its a very trying time and you'll find there will be a rollercoaster of these things as you move in your new direction but know the highs and lows will get further and further apart and hopefully you and your DH can weather the storm now as it will pass.

Nae x