I'm sorry if my reply made you think that. I honestly didn't mean to upset.
I do however think everyone heals in a personal way and for some having another baby may help the journey but for others not change it.
I think however we "heal" we will always carry huge scars of our loss. Knowing how to live with the scars and manage the pain of them is individual for everyone.
I think in the beginning of our greif we thought having another baby would help heal us but as we are travelling along its becoming evident that perhaps it just adds another layer to the scar tissue but doesn't help remove it.
I hope this makes some sort of sense and I honestly hope you make a decision about expanding your family in a gentle loving place.
It sounds like you will need a whole load of willpower to manage another pregnancy let alone manage one after such a devesating loss of your precious Char-leigh.
Good luck to you and your family