I am asking for assistance so that I can find something for a friend who lost her little girl during labour - a completely healthy pregnancy and labour, just a tragic circumstance that led to the death of her girl.
It is coming up to the year anniversary soon and I really want to make the occasion by getting/making something for her and her family. I am really at a loss even though some of the suggestions here are wonderful. It is just that she has a big supportive family and I know that she has received a lot of things from people. I just don't want to overstep the mark... I just want her to know I remember her little girl and she has a special place in my heart too.
I guess what I am asking for is a suggestion of the things that meant the most to those of you who have had to go through this. Something appropriate from a friend rather than a really close family member.
There are lots of lovely things you could do, but a lot of it depends on personal taste.I personally think you can't go wrong with a 'Thinking of you' card.. If you wanted to get a gift there are beareavement guardian angels, flowers, a charm or locket, you could make a small donation to a charity in her daughter's name.. I am sure your friend will be touched that you remember her little girl and I am sure she will appreciate whatever you decide to do. Good luck.
I think there are a lot of good options.... a charm of some sort, or pendant.... I also really like the idea of a flowering plant.
My DP built me a beautiful white garden bed (for our miscarried child) and we filled it with a plant of which the flowers resemble burning candles. That garden has brought me much comfort.
I agree the fact that you acknowledge her baby will mean the world to her, and will most likely be enough. Keep it simple, she will be touched no matter what you do. I don't believe there is any mark to be overstepped here.
You're very brave and strong to be supporting her through this. I wish more people were like that.
What about if you bought a "shining stars friend" plush toy and then they can name a star after their dd?
They have a wide range of teddy bears etc and once you purchase one, you register on their website with a special code and name a star. You can call the star what ever you like and you can choose which star to name too, so perhaps they could name one within their dd's starsign and name it after their dd.
google russ shining stars friend. Also, i'm sure you can get these at toy stores and baby shops too.
Thank you for all your suggestions! I am certainly feeling a lot better about my thoughts about what to do.
It means a lot to get feedback from people who have been through a similar experience. Sometimes I just feel I don't know what to do for her and I don't want to keep bringing it up every time I talk to her as I sometimes feel it is all we discuss! I think the year anniversary is an important, especially being around mother's day so I really want to make it.
A friend lost their first child and we bought them an apple tree to plant so that it would grow and bear fruit for them to enjoy.
Not sure if this is the sort of idea you are after.
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Help with 1 yr memorial suggestions please?
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