D&C wasn't too painful, not much more than a period. I didn't have the option to wait, so I don't know. The worst pain was in my heart when I woke up from the GA.
Im so sorry babe I have had a D&C at 12 weeks and it didn't hurt at all. I felt fine the next day, but you can't drive because you go under a general, so it is better to have someone there. The hossy gave me mitaprostol the day before my procedure to take the morning of (to ripen the cervix). It was the most horrible painful experience of my life, worse than labour IMO.
It's totally up to you what your comfortable with hun, im so sorry you have to make this horrible choice in the first place
Lots of love xxxxxxxxxxxxx
I had mine at 13 wks I guess - bub was 6 wks but I had it 7 wks after bub died, as I was still bleeding. Apart from the whole 'no driving' thing, I really wouldn't recommend waking up alone after a D&C. I don't think I've ever felt so empty or alone as I did when I woke up from the anaesthetic, I was glad to have Professor there. Beyond glad really. Ahh, I'm welling up now remembering it. Audax put it well
So many hugs coming your way sweetheart, I definitely think D&C's are the hardest part, as if it wasn't crappy already
I've had a couple at the 8wk mark. One D&C the other naturally, personally I won't be having a D&C again if I can avoid it. I really don't like them but I know others prefer them because there's no "waiting around".
The bleeding in both cases was more like a heavy period, but naturally there are some differences, I don't want to upset anyone if you want details on going through it at home and what to expect instead of going with the D&C feel free to pm me and I'll let you know how it went from my experiences.
I'm so sorry for your loss
Last edited by toomanyshoes; June 26th, 2011 at 03:14 PM.
Thank you so much ladies. I'm really appreciating everyone taking the time to reply. It is definitely helping.
I'm worried about the D&C, honestly DH will have to look after our two kids, so I just can't imagine them all waiting around the hospital with me... So it will be very lonely indeed. My eyes welled up in your post Keike... I can only imagine... And then to lie there in that bed, trying to hold it all together. It was so hard trying to hold it together on Friday, when I heard those words.. "I'm sorry... there is no heartbeat" - again, I was alone, as I just couldn't let my kids be there. They're kids. Noisy kids. Not a place for them. So DH looked after them while I went. Then I sat in the ER, alone... it was horrible.
toomanyshoes. My last miscarriage my body passed naturally, so yes.. I know those not so nice bits and pieces It really is horrible isn't it? Horrible either way.. I imagine.
I just... I really can not believe I am here. I just can't believe it...
I am still suffering morning sickness... my uterus still feels bloated... i still feel pregnant. I just wish this was all a horrible dream
I just had my last miscarriage in Feb. 2011 bub was 9.5 weeks and no longer had a HB after having great HB readings at 4+, 6+ and 8+ weeks then came the day when I was 9.5weeks and after having a gall stone attack they took me in for an ultra sound of both bub and my gall bladder thats when they found bub no longer had a heart beat. I have never cried so hard as I did this day and for many many weeks to follow. It then took another approx. 2 weeks before I started bleeding and then passing my baby whom I sent off to be tested hoping to get an answer to what and where it all went wrong on me. I never had a D&C with any of miscarriages they have all been natural losses. The last being the hardest of all for me.
I am so so sorry for your loss hun and sending you a tonne of love and emotional support not one of us should ever have to go through a loss at any stage of our pregnancies.
Hugs to you darl you are in my thoughts.
xox
Thank you Clairesmummy Did they ever find a reason for it?
You're right, no woman should have to go through this...
2 weeks before you started bleeding.. was it hard not knowing when it would happen??
I remember with my last loss, it was kind of like... BAM. Pain. Extremely heavy bleeding. I put a pad on, and within a minute it was full and blood was dribbling down my legs. I guess I'm worried this will happen again, while I'm out and about ?? I just dont know..
Tellytubby, I am so terribly sorry for the loss of your baby. Huge hugs to you & your partner.
With all my m/c I decided to go natural. All but one were like a heavy period & lasted no more than 1 week. One m/c I had lasted for nearly two weeks, but I was advised not to have a D&C and to let my body do the 'work'.
To answer your question, when I lost my bub earlier this year I opted to go naturally. My experience is a bit different as I 'knew' for about 3 weeks that things weren't going to progress, in that time my HCG levels were still increasing. So I know that hope that you're feeling Once I actually started bleeding it went on for about 10 days after which I had an ultrasound that showed nothing left. From memory the first 5 days were the hardest physically.
TT: big for you, i have had 3 miscarriages and they have all been natural (2 very early and one at 9 weeks), i never really had to wait long until the bleeding started (the 9 week one was small for dates on ultrasound and i started bleeding a week later) so im not sure what i would do if i had to wait weeks for the bleeding to start....
TT: big for you, i have had 3 miscarriages and they have all been natural (2 very early and one at 9 weeks), i never really had to wait long until the bleeding started (the 9 week one was small for dates on ultrasound and i started bleeding a week later) so im not sure what i would do if i had to wait weeks for the bleeding to start....
telly darling, you know how much i love you. you were there for me i hope i can be for you
My loss was called a missed miscarriage. measured small for dates at first ultrasound, then second ultrasound nothing more to see. i knew then. I had some spotting but it was old blood. had hormone testing and showed no increase then last one was lower than the previous. I didn't want a d&c but dr was keen as bub measured 5 weeks but my dates were 10 weeks. they were worried about me bleeding out and possible infection. I think my body was scared and started naturally. i spoke to dr thursday about levels dropping and that the pregnancy was no longer viable and i lost baby saturday. my bleeding was over the next friday. unfortunately i think i lose babies as well as i deliver them.
I hope you find some answers and i definately see the hope that you see x
Honestly never thought I'd be here... again..
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Im so sorry babe 
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