How long after a loss?

**kbudgie** · May 16th, 2013, 06:51 PM

*hugs* give yourself time honey xx

**Mildez** · May 16th, 2013, 08:02 PM

PP Have you joined the ectopic trust forum? I found this really helpful years ago as everyone had been through something very similar.

**LysnDan** · May 16th, 2013, 09:19 PM

No I haven't joined it. I might google it when I can see through my tears.

Today was a bad day :-(

**Catastrophic** · May 16th, 2013, 10:20 PM

Bad days are okay xoxo give yourself time to grieve and cry.

**LysnDan** · May 17th, 2013, 09:30 PM

How many bad days do I have to endure before I have a good day? :-(

**tippytoes** · May 17th, 2013, 10:43 PM

I've been following your story purple pixie... I'm really sorry your going through all this. It's so unfair. Please be kind and patient with yourself. It takes time. I have never had an eptopic but when I had my miscarriage it took me a very long time to feel like myself again. I only came out the blur when we started ivf again. Sending u a massive hug xxx

**Miss.B** · May 17th, 2013, 10:45 PM

Sending you heaps of hugs pixie, hang in there

xox

**MumtoA** · May 17th, 2013, 11:16 PM

Hun, I am so sorry that you are feeling this way

at some point you find tht it isn't so consuming anymore...I can't say when, but at some point there will be more good days again xo

**kerbear** · May 18th, 2013, 12:37 AM

Hugs to you hunny xoxoxo

**Mrs O'M** · May 18th, 2013, 05:45 AM

Hugs pp, I hope today brings a better day for you xx

**Mildez** · May 18th, 2013, 08:11 AM

Hope some good days start happening for you soon xxx

**LysnDan** · May 19th, 2013, 11:57 AM

I've decided to move back home after living with my Mum and dad for almost 2 weeks. I've been lifting my DD all day so far and doing practice lifting from a sitting position for a few days now too. I am going stir crazy being back with Mum and dad and I think it's not doing me any good in regards to my mental health and independence.

**myturn** · May 19th, 2013, 01:29 PM

That sounds like a good plan pp - getting back iinto your 'usual' routine is important for mental health when you are grieving. Being around your own 'stuff' but knowing mum and dad are nearby to help is important xox

look after yourself x

**LysnDan** · May 20th, 2013, 03:20 PM

I think I'm going to need to ask the gp to try get me into a psych faster. :-( might need to even try medication.

Every little thing reminds me that I should still be pregnant. And I am so jealous (I shouldn't be because she deserves a healthy and happy pregnancy) of my sister in laws pregnancy, bump etc. I've asked her yet again to consider my feelings after what my hubby and I have been through, but everything is about the baby.
I am clearing out my house of baby things too, I'm sick of seeing everything and crying.

**myturn** · May 20th, 2013, 03:48 PM

Sweetie I really feel for you xox

Go to the GP today if you can - you should be able to get into someone this week

youre allowed to feel bad, you're allowed time to process. Would it help to write everything down. Whinge, complain and process it all.

Xox

**LysnDan** · May 20th, 2013, 03:52 PM

I thought I was doing enough whinging here! I feel bad for it. So many people have and are going thru so much worse. :-(

**Ladylove** · May 20th, 2013, 03:52 PM

PP I've been thinking of you a lot, even before my own recent experience. Nothing is insurmountable, just do-use anything you need to get through this bit by bit. X

**LysnDan** · May 20th, 2013, 04:01 PM

PP I've been thinking of you a lot, even before my own recent experience. Nothing is insurmountable, just do-use anything you need to get through this bit by bit. X

Thank you LL. Sending hugs to u and hoping u r ok too.