I was due to have a D&C today, but because I started to bleed last night, I decided not to go ahead with it and m/c naturally. I know the decision has been made, but I cannot help to think that if I did go ahead with the D&C at least it will all be over now and I question myself, did I make the right decision? I always wanted to m/c naturally, but I just dont know how long it will take? My Dr said that if it does not fully come through by the end of the week, then I will be definatley going in for a D&C on Monday (I should be approx.8wks). Sorry to ramble ladies, but I just feel so sad and confused, and to be honest nobody understands how I feel except you! This will be my first m/c, how much time did you have of work when going through something like this? I work in child care & really do not want to go back.
Feeling very sad..
Shell
So Sorry for your loss - I had a M/C at 6 weeks and it all happened naturally. It took approx a week and 1/2 to fully finish and it was a very hard time but Im glad that I went through it.
I took a few days off work and then when I went back I told my bosses what had happened so that they knew why I was away and also why I wasnt myself.
There really isnt a wrong or right amoutn of time to have off - its up to you and how you are feeling. Its a tough time and you should take the time to greive the way you like. And dont let anyone tell you that you should get over it and move on - its super hard and I know how you are feeling.
Look after yourself.
Thinking of you
Kate
My natural miscarriages all happened by 6 weeks so it was much like a heavier longer period. It can be very painful and energy sapping..
Allow yourself lots of time to rest and grieve.
I went in on Thursday and had my D&C, I have fairly normal pain and very little blood loss...
If you have to have a D&C, it's not as scary as you imagine it to be... I preferred having it over and done with instead of waiting for it to naturally happen as my bleeding had stopped and we didn't know when I would start to miscarry.
It's also - for me - been a little easier emotionally to handle...
Good luck hun - sending you massive massive hugs.
Make sure you go straight to the dr if you are worried about the amount you have been bleeding, the type of bleeding your having and any pain or discharge you have...
You should never feel stupid for getting things checked and staying on top of everything...
Shel - I just wanted to say how sorry I am for your loss...
Yes - sadly, many of us here really do understand what you are going thru.
I can't tell you how long the natural miscarriage takes - I think it's pretty individual. I had a D&C as I was already 11weeks. I had it in the morning and the next day was a public holiday. The following day I was back at work (with many breakdowns - but my office so ok). It's such a sad sad thing to go thru.
Take the time to grieve your loss. Don't let anyone make you feel guilty for being sad. We all react differently. I know it's hard sweetie...but we are all here for you any time..
Hi Shell,
I just wanted to say how sorry I am to hear of your situation
I read a previous post by you on your rough time and I can't begin to comprehend how you're coping with this.
I hope everything occurs as best it can.
Big hugs and kisses,
Allyce.
Just needing some comfort xo
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