my baby isnt meant to be born let alone dead

[BereavedBella2007]

ok i have to ask what does DH stand for ........... you really dont wanna know what words i put to those initials.......................................... ........................ my partner agreed to relationship counselling lets see if he comes on the day,,,,,,,,,,, what a joke lol,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, im also seeing a grief counsellor later this month, hoping that will sort something out for me though, my aunty did tell me that we are reincarnated and every life we are in is too learn a lesson, and maybe jesse had learnt his, and im like yeah right what could he possibly have learnt, wasnt untill later i realised maybe he was my lesson as his death has definately opened a new door of appreciation for me with bailey and ruby, anyways im off to try for decent nights sleep thanks again for being here guys catch yas ssoon

[*Efjay*]

my aunty did tell me that we are reincarnated and every life we are in is too learn a lesson, and maybe jesse had learnt his, and im like yeah right what could he possibly have learnt, wasnt untill later i realised maybe he was my lesson as his death has definately opened a new door of appreciation for me with bailey and ruby

I have already mentioned this little story in these threads before, but I would like to share it with you Bella.
My sister M/C her ~Serenity~ at almost 15 weeks. She went through labour & delivered her little man at hospital, just like a normal labour. It was a hard thing for all of us there as he was a perfect little baby that fit in the palm of your hand. We all held him & my sister even got to have foot prints done, they are so tiny.
Mum is a very spiritual person. She sees/feels spirits & when the time was right for my sister she told us that when Serenity was born, there was a young boy sitting at the end of the bed. She went on to tell us about a little boy who was tragically killed after a short life of bad treatment & abuse which eventually lead to his death. He was only 3 or 4 ( we both remember the story in the news). Mum believes that the little man my sister carried for that short time was this little boy who had returned as he needed to feel what real love was, love that only a mother could share. She feels that this little boy got all the love he needed to feel in that 15 weeks my sister nurtured him inside her & was now able to move on to his next journey.

I find it a comfort that if this is the case for my sister, that is one hell of an honour. Sometimes it may not be a "lesson" that has to be learnt but just some thing that needs to be completed. But like you my sister also gained a new appreciation for her older son & also now has a new daughter. I also think that it put an end to a very unhealthy relationship with the father. I know that sounds terrible, but it really was a good thing.

I have never personally been through a m/c. Being with my sister at her darkest hour was a real eye opener for what it would be like to have lost a child. I hope that you & your family can start to heal soon. Jesse will always be with you & like I tell my sister, I am sure that when your older kids hug you, he will be wrapping his arms around you tightly through them.

hugs to you