Is it ok to avoid pregnant people after loss?

[HotI]

I chose to not put myself in certain circumstances following my loss. the ILs are not that great, and some occasions when i knew i had an out (only had to be there a short while or i knew that supportive people would be there) i felt ok about going. Other times when i knew it wasn't going to be good for me, i stayed home.

For me it worked, gave me the time i needed to heal, and now i am strong enough i can just ignore comments if they happen and i am ok about it.

You have to do what is right for you, and not feel bad. I felt that by taking the time i needed, it would actually better the relationship with the ILs. If i had to put up with them when i was raw, it might do more damage to my feelings about them, than any damage done by missing the BBQ (IYKWIM)

take care

[buliej]

I think that you need to put yourself first in this case and do what makes you comfortable - you are entitled to take care of yourself - just because one person wouldn't need the space that you need doesn't make it wrong for you to need it. I think it's worthwhile explaining this to them but if they don't understand, that is their issue and not yours.

[NaeNae]

hun i didn't realise it was only a week ago. so sorry for your loss.

I think that you should just follow your instint and if you decide on the day to go or not go then that will be the right thing to do.

When you have mulitple losses people seem to brush them off a bit more so I can appreciate you not wanting to be around snide remarks.

Be gentle with yourself