Tegam I know the feeling about not getting help during the recovery with the kids. My DD was 2 so not tiny but very active and everytime I moved I would vomit. My eldest is 10 so she would bully the little one and DH went back to work. My kids fight terribly so that didn't help the situation. And everyone avoided me like the plague. The day I got home he wanted to take of to work and I said no way. He didn't realise how serious it was however every time I went ot do something like clean etc he would say I shouldn't but yet he wouldn't do it. Then his parents offered to come down but they were so excited that we were clearly trying for a baby they made the situation so much worse. I think DH returned to work for a few hours the day I got home and then the next day was back to usual. Its very hard when you feel like death walking but have to get back to a normal routine because of the children whilst fuming over what happened and grieving. No wonder you feel the way you do.
What Alice suggests might be very helpful. I increased my iron through my food as I have a known vitamin deficency and don't absorb what I am suppose to. My blood work was fine however not anemic etc
Have you a post op appointment you can discuss this with your specialist?