I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. My heart goes out to you and your family and my thoughts are with you during this difficult time.
I don't know if my story is of any help to you, but when I lost my little boy, my placenta didn't come away like it should have, so I had to have it removed in surgery. I had very heavy bleeding a week later with huge blood clots coming away. I was actually in a fabric shop looking for a nice blue sparkly fabric to put around Joshua's 'plactic' container ( I will be burrying his ashes on his due date in Feb )and then all of a sudden I felt like something was coming down and I had to run to the nearest shop with a toilet and then I almost passed out from the blood loss and massive clots. I was very scared to move anywhere for a few days afterwards, in case it happened again, so I didn't venture out again until the bleeding stopped completely. I was really freaked out as I've never experienced such heavy bleeing and clotting ever. After this incident in the shop, I bled for another week ( not very heavy ) and then within 4 weeks in total after I had Joshua, the bleeding stopped.
My 1st was spotting to start, then cramping, and then bleeding lightly for a few hours, bad cramping and then after about 12 hours passed some big clots, and continued bleeding like a period for 4 - 5 days.
I am so sorry that you have to go through this hun.
My 1st m/c was at 9 weeks and I was later told it was prob a blighted ovum.
I had bleeding like a period then more cramping then I remember sitting on the loo and the sac coming out and I held it and sobbed my heart out cause I realised that it really was all over. I had the next day off work and went back on the following Monday i think.
I continued to bleed for a couple of days then stopped and had a normal AF the next month.
I'm sorry for your loss. My losses were all around the 5/6 week mark.
#1 was a week or two (over ten years ago so I've forgotten) of constant brown sludge. No pain.
#2 was a few days of light occasional spotting followed by 3 days of light bleeding (less than a normal period). Some small clots. I got dehydrated & had to be on a drip for a little while. No pain.
#3 was pretty much the same as #2 but no dehydration & had a little bit of back pain.
Dusty, I have nothing to share, but I did want to pop in and say how very, very sorry I am for your loss. When I saw the title of this thread my heart broke for you. I am just so sorry.
Thank you all for sharing. I hope it wasn't too painful for you to write it down. I have found it incredibly carthatic to share with you and read your experiences.
It sounds like there are many similarities and also some differences with how it happens.
It is strange that while I have been trying for so long I really didn't (and still don't really) understand what happens when a woman falls pregnant and what all the sacs are that start to grow. I need to do a bit more homework!
My FS suggested I have a M/C naturally rather than a D&C but he didn't provide any advice on what to do when it happened or what to expect. Just that it was what he recommended and as someone who has had a high degree of medical intervention with conception I also thought this was better choice for me. However, as women are we supposed to just 'know' what to do and how to respond in this situation. It could have been incredibly traumatic for me (and it is for many or most of us) if I hadn't known it was going to happen, or if I hadn't really dug down deep inside and already said goodbye to our little mite. Personally it was one of the most incredible experiences of my life - that is life changing one- and I am mystified as to why my doctor wasn't more forthcoming with information before and after. But maybe after all the medical treatments I have had I expect to be 'fully informed' but that is still not common practice.
TBH when we spoke with our GP back at week 6 she did mention M/C but I skipped over this discussion as I didn't want to acknowledge the possibility of it happening. Perhaps I should have listened more.
On an emotional side, my sister gently reminded me that I had joined the club of women worldwide who have experienced a M/C in their life (she being one of them). This is so not a club IMO and something that noone wants to join damn it! However, it is a real part of many people's lives and something that is just not really spoken of. I guess until now I was one of those that didn't talk or try to think about it.
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I am just so sorry.
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