the physical side of a M/C *warning may be TMI*

[satya]

I'm sorry for your loss. My losses were all around the 5/6 week mark.

#1 was a week or two (over ten years ago so I've forgotten) of constant brown sludge. No pain.
#2 was a few days of light occasional spotting followed by 3 days of light bleeding (less than a normal period). Some small clots. I got dehydrated & had to be on a drip for a little while. No pain.
#3 was pretty much the same as #2 but no dehydration & had a little bit of back pain.

[Snacks]

Dusty, I have nothing to share, but I did want to pop in and say how very, very sorry I am for your loss. When I saw the title of this thread my heart broke for you. I am just so sorry.

[dusty]

Thank you all for sharing. I hope it wasn't too painful for you to write it down. I have found it incredibly carthatic to share with you and read your experiences.

It sounds like there are many similarities and also some differences with how it happens.

It is strange that while I have been trying for so long I really didn't (and still don't really) understand what happens when a woman falls pregnant and what all the sacs are that start to grow. I need to do a bit more homework!

My FS suggested I have a M/C naturally rather than a D&C but he didn't provide any advice on what to do when it happened or what to expect. Just that it was what he recommended and as someone who has had a high degree of medical intervention with conception I also thought this was better choice for me. However, as women are we supposed to just 'know' what to do and how to respond in this situation. It could have been incredibly traumatic for me (and it is for many or most of us) if I hadn't known it was going to happen, or if I hadn't really dug down deep inside and already said goodbye to our little mite. Personally it was one of the most incredible experiences of my life - that is life changing one- and I am mystified as to why my doctor wasn't more forthcoming with information before and after. But maybe after all the medical treatments I have had I expect to be 'fully informed' but that is still not common practice.

TBH when we spoke with our GP back at week 6 she did mention M/C but I skipped over this discussion as I didn't want to acknowledge the possibility of it happening. Perhaps I should have listened more.

On an emotional side, my sister gently reminded me that I had joined the club of women worldwide who have experienced a M/C in their life (she being one of them). This is so not a club IMO and something that noone wants to join damn it! However, it is a real part of many people's lives and something that is just not really spoken of. I guess until now I was one of those that didn't talk or try to think about it.

[cindyb]

With my m/c i like some of you had the cramping and all (i would now say it was worse than both of my labours I have had) and I spent literally hours just sitting on the toilet with DP rubbing my back and with each 'contraction' i would have more clots and stuff come out. I was actually booked to have my D&C the morning after all this bleeding as the m/c had been picked up that day. I thought that I may have been able to not have the D&C but when i had the u/s just before the proceedure they told me that most of it was still in there still!