Please help me find the right words

[TeniBear]

I would have loved it if someone had sent a "congratulations on the birth of your baby" card, with a handwritten sentiment like "sorry he couldn't stay with you" or something similar.

Do you know if they're a religious family? I only ask because you mentioned you wanted to say that they were in your prayers. I had a hard time reading the ones that said this. As much as it pains me to say it, because I do understand the sentiment and I know I'm coming across as ungrateful, I hate people saying they're praying for me or Ianto. I'm not religious at all, so praying for my baby doesn't comfort me, it just gets on my nerves. Just "thinking of you" would have sufficed... Even my cousin, who knows I'm not religious in the slightest (who I didn't think was either) now tells me everytime she visits Ianto's grave that she said a prayer for him.

Sorry, I went a bit off topic there I get a bit riled up sometimes... I don't mean to offend anyone, I just get a tad offended myself when people disregard how I feel...

Do you know the baby's name? Always use the baby's name (if you know it) when you're talking/writing to a babylost mum It makes us feel like our little ones are valid, they were here, etc. You're doing a nice thing. You'll get it right, not everyone's bitter like me