I just dont know what to do what to say, do I send a welcome to the world card or a sympathy card, do I send flowers or a gift for mum?
Im so unsure I feel so helpless.

Thanks for everyones replies, They are so strong so wise beyond their 19 years so mature and Im so proud
I would buy a blank card and write my own words.. Such as congrats on the birth of your baby girl and then offer symapthies.

most people won't acknowledge that they are parents now just people who lost a baby so a simple card or letter acknowledging that fact is important

on your family's loss..