Lynn,
There are no words to say how deeply sorry I am that you lost your son Cooper, to the CORD. What was Coopers Due date? My Noah was due 10/12/06 Which is my Sisters birthday. We were all very excited that they might share a birthday. But now its just another reminder of what will never be. Like you my bab y may have died because of the Cord (not conclusive but definite possibility) it had any two vessels in a one cm section the rest had three vessels which is normal. We have also had difficulty concieving and maybe this is where a lot of your grief/ frustration/ anger and other feelings stem from I know I felt like people just didn't understand how difficult it had been for us to concieve all of our children. Those large age gaps weren't planned!!! We have never used contraceptives through our whole married life.

I have a slightly different take on this issue you see I feel sometimes like I haven't given my self enough time to grieve the loss of Noah. Because my next baby will be born before the first anniversary of his death. But at the same time I was overjoyed to be pregnant again straight away because I know how amazing this is for us with all our past problems .it really is very confusing. Sometimes I'm not sure why I am crying.

I think the greatest honour we can give to our babies is not to forget them and keep talking about them. I intend to include Noah as a brother in the birth notice of my next child. I know some will think this strange but really who cares. I believe that we are not so much in control of these things (conception) as we like to think we are. Please dont be to hard on your sister Im sure she never meant to hurt you in this way. But agree family could be more sensitive, because you do still need time to grieve it has only been a very short time since you son died. Can you talk to your sister and explain how you feel. maybe she will understand more than you think.
So sorry you have to go through all this stuff it really is unfair and you have been ripped off and it ok to feel this way and hopefully those close to you will understand just how hard it is to be in this situation.
I can see and hold other peoples babies sometimes and sometimes I can't and that's OK. and some babies I dont even want to see them as it upsets me too much and that's OK too . Be gentle with yourself. Are you TTC yet ?

Hugs to you and your family