I'm soooo sorry to hear what has happened to Miss K hun.

I think she knows her family love her - thats why you sent some balloons filled with love for her to play with...

And you're entitled to feel whatever you want to feel; and you're entitled to ignore peoples words if you want too - allow yourself to grieve, however you think is best, afterall, they're not in your shoes. And please vent whenever you feel the need to hun..