As you probably know I had a miscarriage. I found out on Friday (Sept 3) during my 12 week u/s. I am still in total shock and feel very numb inside.
I keep on asking myself "What if I had things differently??" "Why did it happen??" "Was ther something wrong with me??". I could keep asking "What if??" and "Why??" but, I know I will never find the answers I am looking for.
I just wish no mum, dad or grandparent etc.. who wants children/grandchildren should ever have to go through the pain and suffering of a miscarriage or loss of a child.
I just want to say thank you everyone for all your kind words of
sympathy and thoughts. Also I would like to say "Thank you" Kelly for making such a fantastic website.
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. It is a truly devastating thing to go through and my heart really goes out to you at this time. I totally agree with you, this is something that no one should have to experience.
The way you are feeling at the moment is very normal. The shock and disbelief is something that anyone who has lost a baby can relate to. I think that is why all the girls in here are such a wonderful support for each other - everyone understands. I hope we are able to support you through this terrible time.
Please don't think that you did anything wrong, or should have done things differently. I am positive that you would have done everything possible to give your bub the best start in life. Like you said, losing a baby is something that we will probably never understand (and feels totally senseless, I know), but I am sure that it wasn't because of anything you did or didn't do.
I am sure you know this, but we are all here for you. Please post at any time, we will always listen. I think there is great value in being able to vent and let all your feelings out to other girls who truly understand what you are going through.
You are in my thoughts Kazz. I hope you & your DH are able to lean on each other and get through this together. I am sending you heaps of :hugs: . Take care,
Like the other girls, I am truelly sorry to hear of your loss. There is just no greater shock than to find out at u/s when you are not prepared for it. And I've been there too. Like others on this website. So lean on us all you like, when you like. I found this support to be immensely helpful in getting over my last m/c and wish I had of found this website for the previous 5 I had.
All of those questions you are asking yourself......I think that that's a totally normal reaction. Don't be hard on yourself though.
I agree entirely with your sentiments that no one should ever have to go through the pain of losing a baby......it the the cruelest thing that can ever happen to anyone. I am SO sorry for you loss.
In time the pain will subside, I promise. And in between times you must take good care of yourself.
I just wanted to say :hugs: Kazz, my thoughts are with you through this difficult time. The girls here are a great support so please lean on us all as much or as little as you need to.
Kazz,
I'm so, so, sorry that you are going through this.
It is not something you can prepare for in any way and you will eventually deal with it in your own way.
I have asked myself all the "what if" questions too, I think that is normal.
I guess in the end though, it was probably nothing you did or didn't do and you can't beat yourself up about it.
Please chat any time you need to, we are hear to help each other and we know how you feel!
I hope you are coping okay and have lots of support to try and get through this.
Sending you lots of :hugs:
Love Layla
Oh Kazz matey. Swear words are coming out of my mouth right now. I am just so sorry. I was hoping that all you guys would be home and hosed and that somehow the rest of us were the unfortunate statistics. I totally 100% know how you feel. It really really sux. I have found this site to be so helpful though, as well as talking to people who have been through the same thing. Please let me know if you would like my details to contact me directly, if you want to chat.
My thoughts are with you and your family.
Massive hugs
Kazz, I don't know what to say.... I'm speechless.
I'm so sorry - those words don't seem enough. You are such a support to everybody on this site, I know we are all willing to support you through a terrible, emotional time in your life.
Since reading Sarah's post on Saturday morning I have been thinking of you all weekend. I have typed a few different replies and each time I decide not to post it.
big hugs Kazz :hugs: just letting you know that you and the family are in our thoughts and we will be here for you like you have done for many other girls.
Kazz,
I am so sorry to read of your loss, please know that my thoughts are with you at this time.
I think that the "what if" questions are a major part of what you are going through. I know I experienced them after the loss of my son (& in all honesty still go there sometimes) but don't put too much pressure on yourself to return to "normal". It will take time. Take care of yourself.
Im very sorry to hear about the loss of your baby, you are right nobody should have to feel the pain of losing their much loved child.
As the other girls have said how you feel is totally normal but there is nothing that you did to cause this, you cared for your baby as much as you possibly could in the time that your little one was with you.
Come around and vent and talk when you need too we are all here for you.
I totally agree that no one should ever have to go through a m/c. I suppose the thing to remember is, that you aren't alone. All these girls are here to support you whenever you need it, me included.
I can't find the words i want to express what I'm trying to say... so i might just leave it here.
:hugs: and know we're all thinking of you, and here if you need us.
We are in total shock...
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