Having Caitlyn acknowledged was so important. She was born. She is our daughter. Recognise she exists!!! I had friends in the UK who sent flowers which was nice because I knew they couldn't visit or give me a hug or even (really) a call. Getting the flowers and a card meant they were thinking of us and that was really important.

If you have skype / email / FB contact with them, a call in a week or so and then every month or so would be great. It was lovely to be supported initially but it is so isolating in the following few months when your heart is still broken and everyone seems to have moved on but you. You feel like you have no one to talk to and it feels like no one wants to mention the baby you desperately need to talk about.

Happy to answer any questions - having a distracted day