I'm only new to this forum but have been holding my breath waiting for your news while lurking ... I'm so sorry the news was not good.

I have been where you are three times myself, all before 8 weeks, and let nature take its course each time. I tend to miscarry 3 to 4 weeks after the embryo stops developing. The initial cramping can be painful, but I just breathe through it and haven't needed painkillers. A heat-pack helps. It's important to get lots of rest and give yourselves time to grieve.

The clotting can be pretty nasty, but after the worst clots pass, the bleeding in my case is always very light and lasts a total of about seven days. The cramping stops for me after the biggest clots pass. I have of course considered a D&C each time, but wanted a sense of closure where I felt nature was still in control. It's important to have a follow-up u/s to check that all "products of conception" have passed safely.

All the best, whatever you decide.