I am so very sorry for the loss of your two precious angels. I lost my angle last year and did not think I would ever move past the experience. But I would like to pass on something that my mum said to me when I had my m/c....and she was talking from experience, she experienced 1 miscarriage and 2 still births and was a wonderful source of support me. She said that at the moment I was walking in the pain, but there would be a day when I would walk next to it. It took a long time for me and everyone is different. You have taken the first and hardest step in writing down what happened to you and you have come to a place of wonderful support, I know the girls here helped me alot in my time.
Look after yourself and your DH, it is a hard time and you will both heal in your own time and way. You and your family are in my thoughts.
Thank-you for sharing Lisa,
It was a beautifully written tribute to your angels, one where I have tears streaming down my face and nodding as I too remember feeling exactly what you & your dh have felt in the past.........
Oh my love what a beautiful tribute to your babies that grew wings.
I am a health professional - and I cringe when I hear how some women are treated and rejoice when I hear how others are. The doctor who treated you and your baby with respect - we need more of them...
You will swim through this pain and one day you will be able to put it somewhere and it will only come out now and then - but it will always be with you...
Sending you my love
Acria - So sorry hardly seems of value, but I feel so sorry. It brought back memories of a similar lost PG for my family. Lost heart beat at 3 months and DW's body did not expel our baby on its own so we had to have it removed. Not only did I have to watch my DW go through this, I had to break it to my two little girls of which my youngest took it so hard. She was sobbing and went running out of the bed room into the living room where mommy was. Broke my heart more than anything. In our case a year or two later we did have a happy ending (of course we also had two little girls already - with MC's in between). At any rate I could relate all to well which is maybe why I'm so sorry hardly seems worth while.
Lisa, that was one of the most heartbreaking stories I have read.
I am so sorry you have had to experience such loss and pain, and I hope that writing it out helped to lessen the burden of your sadness. It was courageous of you to write so honestly and share such emotion.
I'm so sorry you had to experience what you have, words just cant express how saddened I was from reading your story, thank you for sharing it & I hope by doing so it helps to heal a bit of the pain your experiencing... my thoughts are with you & your DH
Acria, you wrote that beautifully. I am sitting here, nearly 24 weeks pregnant with baby number 2, who is kicking away at me...and yet when I read that, I was right back in the corridor, being wheeled in for my D and C, wishing desperatley that someone would say "Sorry, there's been a mistake...your baby is fine"
*hugs* there is light at the end of the tunnel. Stay strong.
I just want to say thankyou so much to everyone who has posted and given me so much support. It's very easy to feel quite alone at times like this, as I know a lot of you know. To be able to come to these boards and read the support, all the good wishes and the stories of women who've been what I've been through, and go on to have healthy babies, really makes a difference and helps me to feel like everything will be alright.
lisa my heart broke reading your story and i couldnt stop the tears from falling.
you must be such a strong woman to have to go through such a journey and to be able to put it into so many words. my prayers are with you and your husband and i hope that in time you will have a beautiful baby of your own to hold and love.
Your words really expressed the weight of your sadness and my heart felt heavy with you. Thank you for sharing your story. I am sorry you have lost 2 of your children and I hope and pray that you will one day get your hearts desire.
Lisa, that was such a sad, sad story yet so beautifully written & so brutally honest that it touched me deeply. You are a brave woman & I pray with all my might that you get the beautiful dark, curly haired blue eyed baby in the very near future. I know what you have had to go through & it is comforting to know we are not alone. I will be keeping an eye out for you in the threads & wish you & DH all the best.
Lisa, I'm so sorry to hear your loss. It must be very difficult for your especially seeing your dear baby being referred to products. I admire your courage for sharing your experience with us, and I sincerely hope that you will overcome this time of hardship. In the mean time, I hope you are getting support from family and friends. Also, don't forget you have those from BB. I hope that you and your DH will support each other in times of need. Stay strong, there's still hope! One day, you will be able to post in "pregnancy after m/c or loss", I know this will happen to you! HUGS
I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your experience with us. I hope you find the support you need from BB. I'd have been lost without the support I've gained from all the wonderful ladies here when I suffered my second loss earlier this year. Sharing here really does help.
That truly was a heart wrenching story, it made me think how lucky I was that when my angels left me they did so on their own accord (I hope that doesnt sound like I wanted them to go! cause that is definitely not what I wanted it to sound like!). I just suffered the loss of my 3rd angel only last week, and it is still giving me grief. I carried my baby for another 5 weeks before my body thought it was time to let it go, and I thought this time I was coming home with a beautiful baby. I think I had inklings that there was something wrong tho because I started to get a pimple here and there and I was starting to lose the tender bb's thing, but I tried to put that at the back of my mind and think positive.....it didnt work! Tomorrow is gonna be a hard day for me (I have already arranged to have the day off work) cause it was going to be the day when I had my 12wk NT scan on my precious bundle, instead I now have to try hard to think of other things to try and get my mind off it! Maybe I should go and spend heaps of money lol, only kiddin'. The first time I had a m/c, I wouldve been around the 6 wk mark and it was like I knew there was something wrong because I had bright red bleeding and that is just not right when pg, so I then went on to m/c on my own. The second time, I made it to 9wks, had an u/s because of spotting and the little baby had died at around 6wks, once again it was only a day before I started to lose this bub. The third time, and hopefully the last!, was the other day, I had a small amount of spotting, had an u/s and lo and behold, the baby had once again died at 6wks????? In the early hours of the next morning my baby left my body.......it truly is a hard time, but time heals eventually.
I know that in the not too distant future I will be holding my precious bundle in my arms, gooing and gaaring at me....
All the best Lisa, you are truly an amazing woman...
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