Yes, the older 2 are very responsible and lovely.
MIL has cracked the ****s at me because when I dropped DS off for his scheduled monday last week, I knew she was having the older 2, and was completely fine with that (DS loves his cousins)
Whem I got there, she tells me that BIL is now dropping off his 2 kids as well.
Now, I raised the issue of her taking on too many kids in the past ie, I am not so comfortable with it. She told me she would never do it without her hubby being there to help. Last monday, her hubby was away.
MIL never informed me that she would be having all of the kids until I arrived, even though she knew about it the night before. She just sprung it on me when I got there.
I told her I wasnt happy,that she promised me that her hubby would always be there, she responded that miss 12 was there and she thought that would be good enough.
Anyways, I left DS there while I went to my appt but picked him up early.
2 days later she stood me up on a seaworld trip (DS first) that we had planned for ages.

I know she has the right to have as many kids in her house as she likes, but does this just mean that I have to suck it up. Especially as I think she tells me at the last minute so that I just have to smile and go along with it.....