Thanks for the reply, Barley. I will be taking him to the doctor soon to sort out his bed-wetting.

The thing with the poo is, he never does it at school. His undies are always clean when he gets home from school, so I don't think it's an involuntary thing to some extent. He doesn't seem to care about it, either, which really doesn't give him motivation to use the toilet. We explain to him that he needs to be using the toilet etc and he's like "Why?". We have even resorted to scare tactics such as "if we can smell it, your friends at school would be able to as well" but then he says "I don't do it at school". We've tried things like no TV if he soils his pants (as we were thinking it was pure laziness) but this had limited success as it led to him hiding his undies. He does do the poo in the toilet eventually - he doesn't complain of pain and he doesn't strain and they are normal in appearance. I forgot to mention in the last post that when he does use the loo, he often won't flush it or wipe himself, which is making me think it's laziness, he'd rather get back to the "fun" things like playing or TV.

Edit - thanks for your post, too, Sam. As I just said, he's not constipated and has no pain etc. Maybe it's a boy thing LOL. Most people I know have girls that are supposedly quicker to train and more worried about what others think! I joke with DH that my DD (who is only 5 months) will be trained before the boys ever are LOL.