Okay, probably a long post, probably a bit of a vent, too.

*takes a deep breath* I'm getting fed up with all of this! I have 2 DS's - one will be 7 in March, the other 4 in March. Lets start with DS almost 7. He still wets the bed every night. He used to wear a pull-up to bed and we thought maybe it was making him "lazy" by treating it like a nappy, so we bit the bullet and told him he was going to wear undies to bed - after about 3 months of still wetting the bed every night, we got sick of washing sheets and doonas every day and realised it wasn't laziness and went back to putting him in pull-ups. We're not sure if he is weeing through the night or when he first wakes in the morning - although DH went to wake him one morning and his pull-up was already wet. But DS doesn't seem to care less that he's the age he is and still has to wear a pull-up to bed. He also poos in his pants a lot - not full poos though. He holds on till he can't anymore and soils his pants, yet still won't go and finish in the toilet most of the time. He doesn't seem to care about this, either. We've tried various things to get him to stop this (the pooing) but they don't seem to work for longer than a couple of days. He had a star chart for keeping his undies clean, but this just led to him hiding pooey undies! He says sitting on the toilet is "boring" and that he'd rather be playing etc. I just don't know what to do.

DS #2 we've been trying to toilet train for a while now - eventually we gave up and then HE decided he didn't want nappies anymore. So he went into undies and for a few days he was going great (except for poos, although he even did a couple of those on the toilet). Then the novelty wore off and he was just weeing and pooing his pants again. So we put him in pull-ups and started a star chart and this worked well for a couple of days and then he lost interest in that - even though he could see the toy he was going to get when he filled in the chart, we didn't make it too many stickers before he got his toy so it was fairly easy for him, yet he still just poos and wees in his pull-up except occasionally when he feels like it he will use the toilet. When he does use the toilet, we make a big fuss about it and tell him how good he is etc etc. Quite often he tells me he doesn't want to use the toilet anymore and he wants nappies again.

We also have a 5 month old DD.

Anyway, am I the only one with this problem? All I hear is how so-and-so's child was fully trained by 2 years old etc, my sister always makes snide comments like "He's THREE, he shouldn't be in nappies" etc and I just feel like a failure because we've tried all the things we're supposed to - sticker charts/reward system, praising them for using the toilet, ignoring the accidents. I just feel like my life is spent cleaning up wees and poos. Thanks for reading this, it's more of a vent than anything but just wondered who else has the same problem and what they did about it etc.