shannon maybe i didn't explain it very well but ec is not about making the baby pooh/wee on demand - sarah just said she did that before a car trip. it's more about listening and being more in tune with your baby to pick up cues. i would never 'make' oscar poo when it suited me. i'm not into toilet 'training' so don't know much about how it could affect that. so sorry you thought i meant that i was training oscar to pooh on command, it is not that at all.

re the toddler thing yes you do need to be near your child 24/7 but that's ok with me and in style to how i parent. my kids are never babysat by anyone until they are around 4 when they start kinda, so i guess that's why it will suit our family but i understand this is not for everyone.

thanks for your input
beckles