I have been very committed to waiting until DS seemed ready to try and start TT. He is a month off 3.5 years old now and still doesn't seem anywhere ready to me. If he's really not ready, that's okay but I'm worried that I may even be missing signs of readiness. It's not helped by being an only child myself (so never experienced a sibling being TT) and according to my mum she just showed me a pretty pair of knickers when I was 2, asked me if I'd like to wear them instead of a nappy & voila, I was TT (yeah, I know - I'm skeptical too but she's stuck to the same story for as long as I can remember ).

DS used to tell me when he pooed. And he seemed quite keen for his nappy to be changed straight away. Often he would tell me when his nappy was full of pee or even when he'd peed. But in the last few months he's stopped telling me anything & is really quite resistant to having his nappy changed at all - sometimes I won't know he's pooed & he won't say anything.

I thought that maybe offering undies each morning would be a gentle way to introduce the idea but he's not interested. We also bought a toilet seat with steps & periodically offer him the chance to use it. Sometimes he wants to but so far hasn't done anything.

We started using pull ups - I was sucked in by the theory that they feel some wetness once they've peed. He quite happily pees & poos in them & still doesn't say anything. As a result, he's got nappy rash (well, redness) for about the first time in his life

So - is this how other people have used pull ups? Have you not bothered with them at all? Would you just leave him as he is? I don't want to pressure him before he's ready but I don't want to miss any signs either (i.e I expected him being 'ready' to mean him telling me he needs to go or straight after he's gone). He's very stubborn & not easy to persuade so I don't know that reward charts or a special toy etc will work.