Just read something interesting about toilet training

[Miss E]

lol freya dnt feel too bad DD1 is 4 yrs and 3 months old and still wears a night nappy to bed!
interesting findings though

Yeah, my 6 year old niece still needs a night nappy but was fully TT by 2.5 during the day. My sister has done a lot of research into it and there are a lot of factors that come into it from hormones to physiology. Some kids simply don't get a strong enough sensation to wake them up. So I definately support the theory that all kids are different.

My DS is 16 months and I can't even imagine broaching it at the moment, I think (but don't really know for sure) that he is blissfully unaware of weeing... Poos are another matter, but again I don't think his language is well enough developed to express the need iykwim?

[Just Me]

Yeah, my 6 year old niece still needs a night nappy but was fully TT by 2.5 during the day. My sister has done a lot of research into it and there are a lot of factors that come into it from hormones to physiology. Some kids simply don't get a strong enough sensation to wake them up. So I definately support the theory that all kids are different.

My DS is 16 months and I can't even imagine broaching it at the moment, I think (but don't really know for sure) that he is blissfully unaware of weeing... Poos are another matter, but again I don't think his language is well enough developed to express the need iykwim?

I wet the bed until I was 9 years old - and I didn't have a night nappy. Sleeping in a wet bed didn't wake me up either. My brother also wet the bed until he was 15. My mum did until she was 10 so I wonder if there are genetic factors involved there. I think kids have been wetting the bed until they are quite old for a long time. My mum tried lots of different things with us to help us stop and nothing worked. Honestly, I think night nappies are a great invention because I hated waking up in a wet bed every morning when I was growing up - it is a horrible feeling. It made going to school camps and slumber parties really difficult and a night nappy would have made so much difference to me.

My DD1 has been wearing pull ups to bed at night (she has only just started staying dry during her day time naps) and last night, DH and I were up really late and we heard her door open and her going to the toilet and she walked straight back to bed pulling up her pull up as she went We had no idea that she did that and we haven't taught her. Her pull up was still wet this morning so she must have still needed to wee in the middle of the night and not woken up for it but I was amazed that she could do it. Needing to wee never woke me up in the night as a child. So I agree, there are a lot of other factors at play. I don't think being able to feel wetness in a wet bed teaches anything and I don't think that having a night nappy makes it okay to wet the bed ... but I would have dearly loved to wake up in a dry bed when I was growing up and the handful of mornings that I did were bliss

[butterfly_warrior]

I think I come from a family that resists TT.

I've heard many stories about how stubborn my sister was in relation to TT... and I know her son was even more stubborn. I recall him being over 4 and pretty much just flat out refusing to use the toilet. He knew when he needed to go, but wouldn't tell anyone. I recall one shopping trip with them where he ran away because he needed to poo. We eventually found him and he could tell us that he did it because he was scared.

As for my son... He can even tell us when he's done a poo, let alone that he needs to go. If he's running around without a nappy after bath time, we'll often see him grab his penis just before he starts to pee... but I don't think he gets enough warning to be able to use that as a cue for us to get him to toilet/potty. I'm in no particular hurry. When his language skills develop a bit more we may start to pursue it a bit more, but not now.

Honestly - I think back in the days where terry cloth squares were the norm, it was probably more about timing and watching the child's cues as to know when to get them to a toilet rather than the child knowing they needed to go and being able to take themselves or communicate the need to be taken.

BW

[Heaven]

I also discovered today that I couldn't find any undies small enough for my DD! They started in size 2-3 which looks a bit big for her yet.

[buliej]

This is all so interesting to me...I can't get much info from my mother because she says that she sent me to my grandmothers for 3 days and I came back TT ... same with my sister...don't know what age we were though...need to ask. My mom still has no idea how my grandmother did it and my grandmother hasn't been with us for years and years (she passed away way before I thought about TT anyone!)

[Maruschke]

Heaven - I bought size 2 training undies from Best n Less (Indooroo) and the fit DD1 really well at 18 months. They were on special for $2 each.

HTH, PX

[Heaven]

Thanks for that PX, i'll try there!

[Shanti]

I think kids will only be fully TT once they are fully ready personally. No matter whether they wear cloth or disposable. You hear so many different things.

DD started weeing in her potty around 15mths of age when she showed a real interest in it and by 17mths was wanting to use the toilet for wee's. The last few months, about 4mths she's been telling us when she's wee'd or poo'd and either takes her nappy off or we put her on the toilet and she goes if she hasn't already. Sometimes she doesn't. We never push her....I think that's the key. There is no rush.

She wears training pants alot and is naked alot around the house now (her choice LOL!) and either wee's on the grass outside, takes herself outside to do it when she's ready OR in the toilet by asking us.

She won't use the potty now, only toilets! But I take it with me in the car just incase she's interested in sitting on it in the back hehe

Hoping by May next year she will be fully TT, day and night and if not, that's okay too.

[shellbell3]

I also wonder too how much they were chasing these 1-1.5 yr olds around putting them on potty. yes I've heard the stories how their kids were TT by this age but then I hear added bits like MIL had trays that used to sit over the potties so she'd put them on so they couldn't get up therefore eventually doing something. And Nana putting the kids on the potty every half hour or so.

[Indadhanu]

Mum says I was toilet trained during the summer after I turned 2 (i was a late Sept. baby, so I would have been around 2.3 - 2.6yo). She just let me run free, commando, and let me work it out.

Jazz is toilet trained, except at bedtimes (nap and night). She's also a cloth kid. We just let her go for it. Two days before she 'clicked' she flat out refused to sit on the potty (to the point of trying to throw the potty in the garbage bin). Two days later she started sitting on a potty, hasn't worn a nappy during the day since Wednesday October 27, and has had about 4 accidents since. That was less than a month ago. We did the same thing my parents my parents did: as soon as the weather was warming up we let her run around with no nappy or pants on, and she figured it out.

[SareSare]

My daughter turned 2 on Halloween and we bagan toilet training that week. reason being, he best friend is 6 month older and has just toilet trained. Her friend was well and truelly ready to let go of her nappies right on her 2nd birthday but her parents lost there baby at 18 weeks gestation the week before and it was all just too much for Mum. this in mind I gave it a go with Lulu and low and behond not even a month later we are weeing in the parents room at David Jones!! It has been one tough slog Ill admit it but its so great given i also have a 3 month old to deal with. My daughter has always been in cloth and began holding therefore the wee's she was doing the nappy couldn't cope with.
I say to everyone GIVE IT A RED HOT GO!! No such thing as too early and it is really tough regardless of age and regardless of child

X
Sarah

[Sagres]

I understand what you are saying about individual children being ready at different times, but there are other influences. For example in some European countries it is 'the norm' for TT to occur at 18 months also. So while there are always individual variances from child to child, the 'across the board' average in much more likely to be influenced but things like convenience and cultural 'norms'.