Hi Guys,

Thanks for the assistance. he has been seeing a councollor for years now - His mum thinks that he has ' behavioural problems' (non of these have been displayed at our place EVER) His concellor has recommended that we dont discuss the bed wetting as it may distress him. I really believe that she continues all this as she then still has something to complain about - as sad as it is.
there are certianly issues that need to be addressed, unfortunatly we have been down those avenues when she was using drugs, but the DHS say that it is better to keep the child with the mother and they will support her!
Besides, there is one think that i have leant over the years - Mum is always Mum... No matter what they do, or how bad they are children only have one and they will love their Mum unconditioanlly. So there is no point us ever bad mouthing her (i think there will be a time but not at this age) as all it will do is negitvly effect DSS.

Thanks for your support guys - glad to know that i am not the wicked step mum!