I am keen to tt my 21 month old - she is a good talker, and is able to tell me (sometimes) that she wants to sit on the toilet, or that she has done a poo or needs her nappy changed. She has periods of dryness during the day, and seems to do big wees after holding for a while, although I find this hard to monitor. She will sit on the potty or toilet quite happily at times and do a wee, and seems quite pleased when she does this. She also likes to see us use the toilet, and talks about being an "underpants girl" like her cousins.

However, I have noticed that she still doesn't often tell us when she needs to do a wee, and will actively deny that she needs to go to the toilet when asked if she is absorbed in some other activity. The couple of times I have tried her in undies she has wet herself in spite of reminders (I felt like I was "nagging" to prompt her, but she still ended up wet).

So I'm wondering whether I should read this as a sign that she is not ready, or go with the more "positive" signs and put some more time into encouraging and helping her train. I am worried about rushing her and creating negative associations - however I'd also love to see her out of nappies and think that in many ways she is capable.