Thanks everyone.

She does seem to need to go more often when we are out, but its even at places she is comfortable - like my sisters house. I can't think of anything that would make her anxious? There are no big changes in circumstances within our family apart from DS being at school. We've never done toilet timing, it's always been about her own feelings of bladder fullness. I do try and get her to sit on the toilet longer and try to get something else out, but she's always empty. I'm really not keen on relinquishing her control on her own toileting, although I may need to head down this road if things don't improve soon.

I have started using an app called be good. It's a rewards based app that for each task completed, the child gets however many points you assign to go towards a goal. I've decided to try adding keeping her bed dry at night as one of the tasks, and putting it with teeth brushing and clearing her dishes will hopefully make it a bit less of a drama and more like a normal, everyday task and thus taking a bit of pressure off. She was pretty stoked when she got her points this morning. Once I get a full week of nights sorted, I'm keen to try it for the day too on the proviso that it works.

It's just so confusing after she's done so well for so long!

As for DS, after being totally fobbed off by the paed, I've decided to tackle it myself.

All I have wanted for my kids is some advice, but no one professional seems to want to give me anything because they aren't 'ill' enough to warrant any form of diagnosis, so how can I be having any issues. *bang head against wall*. Thank goodness for forums!!