Reward system for toilet training?

[Rowellen]

For my DS, rewards like stickers don't work at all. We trained him with lots of praise and cuddles. Lots of VERY over-exaggerated praise was what he liked. A big clap, "yay DS, claps for DS, aren't you clever" in a nice loud encouraging voice with a cuddle. He got a matchbox car the first time he did a poo on the toilet and then the first two times he took himself to do a poo (I bought a 5 pack and still two left!) but after he got the hang of it, we dropped that back to the praise & cuddles. The cars were a surprise reward. We didn't say "If you do a poo on the toilet, you'll get a car". After he did it, we said, "wow we are so proud of you, here's a present for making mummy so happy!" He still has occasional accidents 6 months on as in once a week maybe twice. He says "sowy mummy, didn't meeeean to. Axes'dent" Too cute!. We just say "oh well it was an accident. Try & make it to the toilet a bit earlier next time."

[Heaven]

Actually I wouldn't use rewards. I did with DD1 and then decided to stop, I won't be doing it with DD2. She ended up just going to the toilet to get the reward, instead of being motivated to go herself. She would quite happily wear a nappy if there wasn't going to be a reward. I wanted her to want to use the toilet itms. Every time she would go she would demand a reward and get cranky if I didn't give it to her, lol, and then when I stopped the rewards she went backwards a bit.

I would just wait til he's ready himself and it will be a piece of cake

[OceanPrincess]

Actually I wouldn't use rewards. I did with DD1 and then decided to stop, I won't be doing it with DD2. She ended up just going to the toilet to get the reward, instead of being motivated to go herself. She would quite happily wear a nappy if there wasn't going to be a reward. I wanted her to want to use the toilet itms. Every time she would go she would demand a reward and get cranky if I didn't give it to her, lol, and then when I stopped the rewards she went backwards a bit.

Yep, we did end up having to wean her off the fruit lolly rewards! Thank goodness they were only dried fruit pieces!!! I ended up saying things like "big girls don't get lollies for doing wees, does mummy get a lolly? No! Now that you are such a big girl, you don't need a lolly!"

[Little Chicken]

At the moment, a small box of smarties at the end of the day works here, well it got her on the potty at least. To get her on the toilet, we are currently using cheap craft butterflies, she loves butterflies a lot. Still not confident enough o go nappy less during the day(she only became really good at it about 3 days ago), but I took forever to find a system that worked here.

[hopefulgirl]

Thanks girls, lots of food for thought. This avo DS was really upset when he did a #2 on the floor (we were just getting organised for bath) so I had to reassure him it was ok. If I have any success with anything i'll let u know.

[LuluHB]

We used chocolate buttons for wees - one wee for one button, but like Heaven said we soon needed to stop that because DD2 could squeeze out seemingly 1000 little wees a day. We ended up not needing any reward for wees, but for poos they got a sticker for each poo in the toilet and once they had X number of stickers they could choose any toy they wanted. DD1 got toys and DD2 3 toys, then there was no looking back.