My son is 3 years and 1 month and is not interested in toilet training in the slightest. I've brought him a fancy potty, toilet seat, cool jocks with wiggles, buzz lightyear etc on which he picked himself - but if I put them on him he crys and says he wants his nappy on!
I don't want to force him because I don't want him to be scared of the whole process, he's not afraid by the toilet or the potty, he just prefers nappy's.
I had trouble with my DS, he could do it, he just didn't want to!
DH took paternity leave when I had DS#2 and had him completely TT within a fortnight. I think he just responded better to his dad teaching him rather than me.
My friends boy (2.5yrs now) also responded better to his Dad. After a weekend of watching his Dad repeatedly pee in the 'big-boys toilet' he refused the potty and insists on weeing in the toilet (he has a step-up thingy and support-seat of course).
If there is a significant male in your life perhaps this is worth a try?!
I haven't been through it myself yet (fun times ahead) but I have heard from a few women that toilet training is alot easier if you start it before they understand what their nappy is for. That doesn't help you much though, does it?
My sister-in-law swears by the following; don't treat the potty as a toilet. Make it their 'sitting chair' or whatever you want to call it, and let them sit on it in the nud to watch their favorite TV show (sesame street, playschool etc). Eventually they will have to pee/poo and hopefully if they are relaxed enough nature will take its course.... I guess its just getting them used to the sensation of 'letting go' without the nappy there.
Mind you, she started doing that to her bub when he was 1(!). I suppose when they don't really understand what they are doing, they have less hang-ups about 'doing it?'
Sorry! Maybe those ideas can still help you... I hope you find something that works. I'm sure he'll come around in time.
Wow, maybe getting his dad to help would be the go.
They are all different - some boys are TT by 2 1/2, others have no interest at 3. So I wouldn't be too worried, and I think you are right not to push it. Just keep giving him the option gently and see how it goes. I have heard of 3yos showing no interest until one day they ask for undies and never look back. So maybe the wait will mean an easier TT journey for you. I hope so. GL.
I also think you're on the right track not pushing it.
My DD barely had any interest at the same age. And being a girl and all, you would have expected that she would since on average they train earlier. But nup, at just on three she really couldn't have cared less.
She would do it, but only occasionally and only when there was bribery involved
The real turning point for her was when we moved her from family daycare into kindergarten...she was a few months past her third birthday then. All of a sudden she made a heap of new friends who peed on the toilet. At FDC she was the oldest child so there just wasn't any motivation...once she got to kindy and saw all the other kids doing it she came along really well. Suddenly it was "I'm a big girl mum, big girls don't NEED nappies!!"
Probably the only time in my life I will be happy for peer pressure
But up to that point we didn't push her, we just didn't want it to become a big deal and it never was.
Try not to stress just yet, i am sure one day he will just decide he wants undies and that will be it
My 2.5 year old was trained at 18 months, would hold on in the shops and everything, then one day he wanted his nappy instead of undies and ever since he refuses to do wee unless he has a nappy on, i think he is just lazy. My attitude about it is as long as he is trained by the time he starts 4 yewar old kindy, i am happy. Every couple of minths i get out the potty, toilet seat and undies, but hes just not interested, so now i am just waiting and hoping that he will initiate it on his own.
Thank you so much for all your advice and support...it really made me feel a lot less worried about the whole thing.
Well, I decided on Monday I was going to try him in his underwear at creche. I psyched him up on Sunday night telling him that tomorrow he would be wearing his underwear and that he would need to wee in the potty (I may have also indicated a lolly would be involved!)
Monday came and when I picked him up from creche he had had 1 little accident
Tuesday I took his potty with him to creche because I sensed he was a little hesitant with the creche toilet and since then we haven't looked back (yet!! touch wood as it's still early days!)
Even to our amazement, we put him in the TV room last night with a movie on and his potty in the corner, we went in a little while later to find wee in the potty. After DF and I had confimed neither of us had helped him out of his pants and underwear - we congratulated our little man on going to the potty all on his own! He has done the same today!
I am absolutely thrilled! He has been so good about it. I think I was so worried about forcing him, I didn't want to initiate anything...and thought he would when he was ready. As it turned out, maybe he was just waiting for us to help him make the transition. We've also been using A LOT of positive reinforcement so he's really lapping it up!!
Once again thank you all so much...and hopefully he just keeps it up =)
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Son is 3 yrs 1 month and not interested in TT
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