Ok I have read all your replies (thanks) and have decided to just do familiarisation atm. So for the time being when I am going to the toilet if we are home I ask Bridie if she needs to do wee or poo, she will nod (most likely cos she likes sitting on the potty) and she sits on the potty while I sit on the toilet. So far we have had 3 wees (more coincidence than actual knowing whats going on). Also if she is telling me she needs poo and she is clean I will put her on the potty until she decides she doesn't want to sit there then the nappy is back on... every time she does poo in the nappy withing minutes but I never comment on it, just say oh well next time in the potty.

I honestly think it is more about sitting on the potty than any desire to train and she apes everything I do... she has to have paper, she has to push the button.. but at least now she doesn't think the toilet is where we throw our balls so we can watch them float any more.