Wet Nights - supporting the physical and psychological impact

[Abigail]

DS has never been dry, have any/were any of your kids dry at some point or is this an every night thing for you too?

How do you guys go with other people, like other parents and the like? I've been reaching out the last few weeks as I'm trying to find ways to help him as I feel totally out of my depth. My mother is a god send, she absolutely understands my frustration and despair for him. Other people I have to say, have been less than supportive. I mean to say, they mean well, but being told a million times that I just need to stop the drinks near bedtime, need to get him up every few hours, time when he does a wee at night, put him only in undies for nights on end, set an alarm off near him/for him and so many more. Do people really think that; 1. I haven't thought of all those things and 2. I haven't tried all those things. Its like they look at me like I'm just being a lazy parent who can't be bothered to get my child some help! And its soul destroying. To be told how awful it will be when he is a teenager and still in pull ups because I didnt bother to act now. Really?! how is that helpful to me now?!

I want him to be toilet trained almost as much as he wants to be. He wants to do this so badly and his body is just letting him down and all I can do is sit back and watch and hope to get him through the other side until, hopefully, his brain and bladder make that light bulb glow.

Sorry just feeling so alone in this at the moment. No one seems to get it.

Clover - I would love to tell them to take a flying leap but it wouldn't help anything at all unfortunately.

[OceanPrincess]

Oh Abigail Sounds like you really need some of these

Fortunately it isn't an issue for us - my niece (my sister's DD) is 8mths older than my DD and has only recently gotten out of night nappies, so my sister sympathises and keeps telling us DD will get it when she's ready. My other good support system is my local ABA group and there is another 4.5yo who is still in night nappies and her mum says the same thing, they will get it eventually.

I have another good friend who's favourite saying is "They won't still be xyz when they are 18", replace xyz with breastfeeding/night waking/using nappies overnight.

I'm really sorry you are feeling unsupported in this. My DD is the same - she wants to get it, she really does. She has a big LaLaOopsie doll (some mermaid thing) that she chose from the Toy shop as her reward for five dry nights. It is sitting up in her room, where she can see it. She had three dry nights in a row and I got really excited that she was getting it... then more wetting overnight. Now we've had two nights, let's see what tonight brings.

[Early Kids]

Big hugs for you x I have no ideas for you, but my 6.5 is still in pull ups. He's only been dry some nights for the past 3ish months. His younger brother (now 4) has been completely trained since 3.5. We've taken the "he will get it in his own time" approach and make no fuss over his nappy wearing, he's in control of getting one out and putting it on etc just like his younger brother (except its jocks for him obviously). Every few weeks Ill ask if he's ready to try without a nappy, if he's confident we give it a go if not I leave it. He's a really heavy sleeper, I couldn't wake him even if I fired a shotgun off in his room hahaha

I'm sorry you are having troubles and hope its sorted soon x

[OceanPrincess]

From the Huggies DryNites website:

...Designed for Australian kids and thus come in different sizes for both boys and girls from 4 years old through to 15 years old, and can accommodate children weighing up to 57 kilograms.

There is clearly demand for this product so we aren't alone...