The problem is she won't ask to use a potty or the toilet (she just takes herself), and if i ask she then stops using it all together. She will take herself at my Mum's (sometimes) and at home (sometimes), she will take her undies or nappy off if it is wet. She wants to do it herself, but isn't quite there yet. She isn't into the whole praise thing. Nor rewards (neither am i).

i am ok with her doing her thing at home, but just don't now how to move forward, when all the 'tricks' kinda rely on you being able to make suggestions.