Nobody would say you can't pick and choose parts and apply them to your life, I encourage anyone to read into it and take whatever positives you can especially in regards to connecting with your children and encouraging natural learning, just that there is no reason it needs to be called unschooling because it wouldn't be (Ginger said she unschools outside of school, had she said she uses some of the principles I wouldn't have clarified). And that's okay too, unschooling in it's entirety isn't for everyone as you say and it doesn't need to be seen as some exclusive club everyone should be so keen to join that they want to bend and change definitions, it just is.

Personally I feel it does a bigger diservice to the ideals and message to not be clear on what it is. Especially when so many people are already unaware, unclear or holding onto misconceptions. It is like saying well why can't a daisy be a rose, people would like roses more if they could include daisies in their picture of it and they have a lot in common but in the end a daisy isn't a rose and there's no reason to pretend otherwise.