Your not over reacting, but fortunately those people havent been in our world. I use to get really angry at those inconsiderate comments, but then without the life experience they have no measure/understanding of just how scary the prem journey is.

I had friends like that when DS was born, how lucky was I that I didnt get a big belly, that I didnt have to wait to meet DS. In your friends family case, I feel sorry that they dont have friends that they can rely on for support, comments like "tiny bubbas are so cute" would have made me less likely to lean on them for support. Is there anyway you can get in contact with them and offer support from someone who has been through that journey?? There is also a few pages on facebook that send prem bubs hospital gowns, you give them the name of hte hospital and they send them directly. A little cherub like that would need hand made clothes for so long