Just a lil vent...

[RainbowBrite]

I agree that people may not understand the risks of having a prem and all that it involves but for me these comments where made under a photo of my son.
He was tiny with tubes and wires, long lines, umbilical lines and eyes still fused shut with fragile skin...he was beautiful to me but he wasn't 'cute'...he had no fat at all on him and he was skin and bones.
While I appreciated the congratulations I do think some people need to think a little before they post.
There is nothing fun about having your baby at 25 or 28 weeks....it is extremely hard on all those involved.

[Early Kids]

I agree with both sides here. I think it's still hugely important to acknowledge the birth with a congratulations and be excited. I feel that "woohoo congratulations, hope it all goes well" is far better than saying, "I'm so sorry hope bub makes it" but then I was always very positive even when told that DS1 probably wouldn't make it through the night.

Yeah it is a hard journey, but unless they've been in our shoes then they don't understand why would we expect them to?

And don't worry I got a whole lot of nasty comments too, I'm "lucky" I didn't get stretchmarks (really? have you seen my thighs, tummy and boobs?) I'm "lucky" my babies were so small because it was easier to push them out *rolls eyes* and the one that hurts the most... I'm apparently "too lazy" to push out a normal sized baby *groan*.

[Charlotte91]

And don't worry I got a whole lot of nasty comments too, I'm "lucky" I didn't get stretchmarks (really? have you seen my thighs, tummy and boobs?) I'm "lucky" my babies were so small because it was easier to push them out *rolls eyes* and the one that hurts the most...

I get this all the time!!!!!! I really really hurts my feelings. My body is one big stretch mark. Boobs, bum, one on my back, belly, thighs, and all the way to my ankles.
And I wanted to push her out.... I had no choice but to have the c/s. People just don't think sometimes.

[blessedatlast]

Thanks for all the replies.. I was good to get views from both sides.. I guess it was just being on the receiving end of comments like that, really upset me because as I said, prematurity is so scary..

I guess a lot of people wouldn't know just how bad it can be (maybe?) and I agree that it is still important to be congratulated on the birth.. I had more sympathy cards than congratulations.. I am not sure how they are doing, the friend who put the status up is in a different state to her cousin and his wife, and she is also dealing with her ill dad.

ETA: Just stalked FB and there is a pic of bub on there.. She is tiny and on CPAP.

[Early Kids]

blessed x The comments do hurt and you have every right to vent them too (I do!) Sounds like bub is doing well to be on CPAP already, fingers crossed bub has a smooth journey.