Just a lil vent...

[Early Kids]

I agree with both sides here. I think it's still hugely important to acknowledge the birth with a congratulations and be excited. I feel that "woohoo congratulations, hope it all goes well" is far better than saying, "I'm so sorry hope bub makes it" but then I was always very positive even when told that DS1 probably wouldn't make it through the night.

Yeah it is a hard journey, but unless they've been in our shoes then they don't understand why would we expect them to?

And don't worry I got a whole lot of nasty comments too, I'm "lucky" I didn't get stretchmarks (really? have you seen my thighs, tummy and boobs?) I'm "lucky" my babies were so small because it was easier to push them out *rolls eyes* and the one that hurts the most... I'm apparently "too lazy" to push out a normal sized baby *groan*.

[Charlotte91]

And don't worry I got a whole lot of nasty comments too, I'm "lucky" I didn't get stretchmarks (really? have you seen my thighs, tummy and boobs?) I'm "lucky" my babies were so small because it was easier to push them out *rolls eyes* and the one that hurts the most...

I get this all the time!!!!!! I really really hurts my feelings. My body is one big stretch mark. Boobs, bum, one on my back, belly, thighs, and all the way to my ankles.
And I wanted to push her out.... I had no choice but to have the c/s. People just don't think sometimes.

[blessedatlast]

Thanks for all the replies.. I was good to get views from both sides.. I guess it was just being on the receiving end of comments like that, really upset me because as I said, prematurity is so scary..

I guess a lot of people wouldn't know just how bad it can be (maybe?) and I agree that it is still important to be congratulated on the birth.. I had more sympathy cards than congratulations.. I am not sure how they are doing, the friend who put the status up is in a different state to her cousin and his wife, and she is also dealing with her ill dad.

ETA: Just stalked FB and there is a pic of bub on there.. She is tiny and on CPAP.

[Early Kids]

blessed x The comments do hurt and you have every right to vent them too (I do!) Sounds like bub is doing well to be on CPAP already, fingers crossed bub has a smooth journey.