I have a friend who has 18 month old twins(boy and a girl), and her daughter was the smaller of the two, always sick, and "behind" in her developement milestones. They were born at 35w. It seems to be the way with twin, evetually they catch up, and Ivy will get better fingers crossed they get her reflux under control. im that everything starts looking up for you... dont doubt yourself, ever. You're a good mum
And jess, Patrick will be home in no time at all, got some prayers for him too... i know its frustrating, but its better that they're 100% then to take them home and they end up going back... thinking of you both at this stressful time. Just remember to take some time for yourselves, otherwise the stress will get to you.