Premmie Mums #8

[*Beema*]

Sorry Beema - how early was Kita born? I'm a bit out of the loop . Awesome milestones to reach though! You must be soooo proud!

Kita was born at 33 weeks, there is a link to her birth story in my Sig, she was in a big hurry to meet us and there was no stopping her

Rhyb and your gorgeous three little girls, they are doing fabulously, you must be so proudm and how is big brother Aiden going with having three little sisters. How are you finding it, I hope you have a good support network

Skybie, I too joined the baby buddies thread of my Belly Buddies - due date, as I found I had very little in common with the Baby Buddies born at the same time as DD, and it was a bit depressing when they spoke of how big their bubba's were compared to Miss N, especially as she was a very slow gainer and even in my "corrected" Baby Buddies thread she was the smallest by quite a bit

If anyone else has written their birth stories post a link I would love to read them

[butterfly_warrior]

Skybie, Sam was also a 36 week prem - but much smaller than your little girl! We had to spend 10 days in SCN and I still feel like a bit of a fraud here - especially as he has grown so big so quickly! However, I do know what you mean about the developmental side of things - it's hard to hear about other babies doing things so early compared to yours - even though Sam wasn't all that delayed, it was there a bit and it has made me VERY paranoid!

One thing that has helped me a great deal - a friend of mine had a little boy born at 35 weeks who is about four months older than Sam. It's been good to see that Sam has done things around the same time as Timmy - so I know he's keeping up with other boys who have faced the same challenges.

My birth story is in the de-brief section - it's not something I can face talking about too much at all, even now at 12 months on.

BW

[ladybird11]

My birth story is actually in the birth announcement section .

Not sure how to link it - but it's titled 'Madeline Ruby - 2 months early'.

Or I can link it if someone can tell me how ?

Beema - doh! I missed that. I'll have a read of Miss N's arrival after I've dished breakfast out to the kids

[skybie]

thanks for such a warm welcome ladies!!
BW, im so sorry u cant talk about sam's birth just yet. i hope one day you get closure on it.
Izzy birth, although scary beacause of all the things they tld us could go wrong, and not dialating for 4 hours, was actually quite good, not my planned, perfect birth, but still good. Everything i wanted went out the window when we knew she was coming early, i didnt care how she came out or what condition i was in afterwards, i just wanted her to be born safe.

im not really sure how to post a link but i copied the top of the page thing, hopefully it works

https://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums...les-story.html

[*Beema*]

I will go reading the stories tonight

Skybie, I know how you feel when at the time you just want them out safe and sound

No worries leesa

To do a link leesa, open the webpage you want to link to, copy the link, then go to your reply post, click on the little globe with a link below it, a little screen will pop up and press Control V, then ok, and alink will appear, part of it will be highlighted, that is where you can type the name of your link ie. Madeline Ruby - 2 months early. Then it is all done and when you have posted it should appear with a line underneath it

I did a search and found it so have popped a link in here for you

Madeline Ruby - 2 months early

Hugs BR I am sorry to hear that Sam's birth continues to traumatise you, have you had a chance to debrief with someone face to face? Maybe time will heal and you will be able to celebrate what was a very special event, even though it wasn't what you had hoped for. Big squishy *HUGS* And hun you are not a fraud at all being in here, Sam was born too early and it doesn't matter how prem your bub was, being the mother of a prem comes with it so many different emotions, and often the best people who can understand the emotions are other mum's of prems.

Must run for now
xxoo

[tk1999]

Welcome Skybie and to your DD2. I have done the same and have joined both the baby buddies from when she was born and from when she was due, I couldn't not share in my belly buddies babies growing... but DD is similar in that she isn't doing things that the bubs she was born around are doing and she is sometimes ahead or behind the babies due around her. I decided to not really pay attention to when she does things on a strict scale, I am still watching milestones but not in a huge panic if she hasn't 'achieved' something strictly to the MCHNs schedule. I agree - when I was told I had to be induced as my liver was failing I no longer 'cared' about a 'perfect birth' I just wanted my baby born safely. I did it without drugs because I felt guilty taking anything when it was my body that was failing us both and I realised a few weeks ago that a part of me felt like managing the labour pains was the only thing I could control.

Welcome Rhyb and Sienna, Bella and Ruby. You did a great job baking!! My DD was also 2.4kg born. You have every reason to be proud

Leesa - I agree, the corrected thing is starting to do my head in... I am not explaining it to everyone but I do expect my and DPs family to get it. Some do, some don't. The ECHNs and her Paed have been great but argh family sometimes... DPs family are famous for saying that I shouldn't correct her age because she chose her birthdate... um NO she didn't... I was induced because my liver was failing... if she needs that 6 weeks leeway then so be it... but now because she has discovered her hands and constantly has them in her mouth well yep that MUST mean she is teething... I know can be a sign but she hasn't had any other signs... she just found her hands and a place to put them LOL. Argh argh argh

Great thing about having a prem though is we get extra time for Newborn cuddles .

I totally agree!

BW - I remember seeing your BA when Sam was born but have not read your birth story. I will. I sometimes feel like a fraud when DD is bigger than some babies born FT before her but then in other ways she is a 'classic prem' as my fill-in ECHN said one week.

I have linked DDs birth story into my sig if anyone would like to read.

[Early Kids]

Welcome Rhy! Great to see you in here Your girls have done so well

RE- baby buddies, I've joined the group for actual age. With Brendan I joined both, but then the corrected one faded out. So actual ages here. But it doesnt bother me in the slightest that term babies are bigger and doing more than Tristan or Brendan. They have both come so far.

Tristan has 6 month needles on Thurs and then next week he has his weighin, so hoping to have cracked that 6kg mark this time (3rd month lucky eh?) He was 5660 grams a week before his 1/2 year birthday hehe.

Brendan is waiting on an appointment with the ENT, we are slowly trudging through ear infections lol. He lost nearly a kg before Christmas with gastro and now he is lactose intolerant from it. New Year and time to get back into the therapies (we took a break over Christmas at my request)

Hope everyone is well

*ETA* Birth story links
Brendans Journey
Tristans Journey
Theres better stories (more detailed) on my blog Parenting Premmies

[Early Kids]

Just thoguht I'd pop Tristans NICU/SCN Journey in here too. Tristan's Journey