is what i am feeling normal or just plain silly?

[Early Kids]

you are not alone. Perfectly normal way to be feeling.

Brendan, 30+1wks, is now 3yr7m and I still suffer (sometimes daily) from his pregnancy/birth and NICU/SCN experience. I was diagnosed with PTSD when he was about 6-7 months old.

At least if you do fall pregnant again you should be closely watched to make sure the same issues do not arise again. I know it wa with that help that I managed to hold on another 4 weeks and have Tristan at 34+3.

[teresa]

thank you so much ladies. it makes me feel better knowing that its normal and not me being silly.

i get asked all the time at the moment whether we are going to have another one and i reply with not sure, scared to get pregnant again. most people are saying that i am being silly for thinking that way and i should just get over it.

i had a friend say the other day that she thought me not watching anything on NICU/SCN babies and being scared was just plain stupid as Hamish wasnt that bad when he was born. easy for her to say, she had an all natural labour and low risk pregnancy! plus she got to go home with her baby after 24 hours. i dont think people truly understand unless they have been where you are.

your kind words mean so much and i thank you all from the bottom of my heart

[Early Kids]

i dont think people truly understand unless they have been where you are.

Exactly!

I'm sorry you get some insensitive comments, most of us have been there too. I once got told that I have prems because I'm too lazy to push out a normal baby (WTF?!) absolute morons... some people just don't think about what they are saying.

[teresa]

i got told by DH's cousins wife that i was taking the chickens way out by having a c section! that one annoyed me.

[aussienic]

i got told by DH's cousins wife that i was taking the chickens way out by having a c section! that one annoyed me.

I got told that when we were pg with Ds3. I said I was opting for a c/s regardless. We were scared and both knew we couldn't have coped with a natural delivery

ETA; I was also told that my Dh's cousin and his wife (they are both nurses as well)

[Danielle_NZ]

Sorry I don't have knowledge to help with your questions, although i did have an idea on the missed baby shower... how about you turn his 1st birthday into a belated baby shower also... games for the adults and a real baby shower theme... most first birthdays are more adult driven anyway and that way you can have your own baby shower experience