newborn in parents room?

[MummyDuck]

Im laying watching dp move the furniture around the house and it made me wonder. At the moment we have a nursery with a cot etc. We were offered a bassinet that was passed down the family but didnt take it. Im now starting to think we should. So my question is how many of you kept your newborn in your bedroom? If you did how long for? The last thing i want is to end up like my dad and step mum who still have my brother in their room at 2 years of age and another on the way. But i began to wonder if leaving a baby alone in her own room straight away is a bad idea.

[JadeLil]

We tried putting our little bub into his cot when we arrived home from hospital. He was waking so frequently during the night that it was easier for DH and I to put him in a bassinet in our room. That way we could sleep better knowing DS was okay and could reach over to pick him up if he needed a feed/nappy. I also found a bassinet was handy to move around the house as it was on wheels. So if DS was having a restless night I could wheel into the lounge room. I am sure you will figure it out when bub arrives. I personally would recommend a bassinet

[Beach Mama]

We had a cradle and she was in our room for 2 nights but Im such a light sleeper that every noise she made, caused me to wake up and I didn't really rest much, and recovering from a c/s meant I needed my rest too. She was a pretty good sleeper from early on so we had her in her cradle in her room, which was directly next to our room and we left both doors open so we could hear her stir....if she was much further away we probably wouldn't have moved her so soon. Only you will know what works for you, but it's not a bad idea in the first few weeks so that you can get bub up easily and feed in bed if you want to. I was getting up and feeding on the couch anyway so that part didn't bother me....
Im babbling now - good luck with it all and I guess it is trial and error.... If you feel you won't rest much because you are worrying too much then it might be better to have bub in your room
I got my cradle for $20 on ebay and bought a new mattress and bedding for it and it's great!

[aussienic]

I have always put bub into our room until around 11 months of age.. Never had an issue moving them out of room either,,

I used my pram for my first baby for a couple months then we just brought the cot in. both Ds 2 and 3 went straight into the cot in our room.. DD went into a cradle and has just gone into a cot in our room

[sweetpea678]

Hi,

I had both my girls in my room from the start till they were both 16 months old then in their own rooms. I am planning the same with this one. It is a personal choice but i foun it easier with them with me so that I could feed and change them durring the night without have to get up to much.

[JordieC]

Personally I think they should be out of your room because it makes it harder down the track to move them out. On the other hand my house is VERY small and DD's room is so close to ours so I could easily get to her and hear her. In our new house which will be much bigger I plan to put the baby (not thinking about that yet!!) in the lounge in his/her cradle so they are close but not in the room.

Just from talking to people in mum's groups, the ones who had them in the room with them found it harder to put them down and to get them into routine. But if you don't care about that do what you want!! My DD is quite a noisy sleeper so when we do sleep with her (when we are away) I don't sleep nearly aw well.

[Ginger]

ds is still in our room now and i think it's fantastic, it works so well for us.

also, i think you should definitely accept the bassinette as it can be handy for other purposes. for example, sometimes i put ds in it and wheel it into the bathroom so i can have a shower in the mornings. he's happy to lie there playing with a toy and i can relax and enjoy my shower!

[LimeSlice]

C has been in our room until about 3 weeks ago, in a bassinette, and co sleeping since 3 weeks old when DF is away and it worked wonderfully.
We are BFing so i think that makes a difference for the ease of night feeds and also to make me feel more comfortable too lol I couldn't bear the thought of her so far away (her room is down the other end of the house from ours).
It really is personal choice though, and whatever bubba is happy doing. If you have a very collicky baby or something, it may be helpful having them close by.

And the bassinette is handy as gracie said for other things too!
Good luck however you go!

[myboysmumma]

We kept ds in a bassinet next to our bed for the first 3.5 months. Mainly for our own peace of mind. After that I started putting him in the cot in his room for day sleeps for about a week. He had no problem making the change.

[*Efjay*]

Co sleeping is a fantastic Idea especially when your BFing. Did you know that CO-Sleeping refers to a baby sleeping in your room, not just in your bed. All of my kids have co slept, either in our room or in our bed from word go. Till they move to a big bed.
I have no issue with co sleeping so its not a problem for me that Evan was 4 when he moved from our bed to his. Glenn moved in with Evan at the same time. So they went from sleeping with us (yes both of them) to sleeping together in a double bed in their own room, their choice too I might add. they had bunk beds but prefered to be on the bottom together.
Isla is still in our bed. Yet I am trying to get her in her cot which is in our room as she does sleep better there now. She wakes frequently being beside me aka boob's.

Co-sleeping also helps estabish BFing as both Mother & baby tune into each others sleep cycles & often a BFing mother will find she will wake just as her baby does or vise versa. Mum will wake then baby will.

Bringing a warm soft, cuddly beautifully smelling NB back to bed for those late night feeds is the best thing about having a baby. mmmm can't wait to be able to do it again.

[morgan78]

Definately accept the bassinet as others have already said they are very useful in the first few months.
We had DS in our room until he was 6 months and will probably have DD in with us for at least 12 months. We are both deep sleepers so it easier for us to hear them when in with us and FionaJill made some really great points

Bringing a warm soft, cuddly beautifully smelling NB back to bed for those late night feeds is the best thing about having a baby. mmmm can't wait to be able to do it again.

I agree, i miss that smell
also "cosleeping" can reduce the chances of SIDS, but it is your bub & your house so at the end of the day go with what works best.

Just a had a thought - if you want to keep bub in their nursery get either a really comfy chair or a single bed so you can sleep in there if you need to.

[BekZ]

We had DD1 in a porta cot in our room until she was 4 months and DD2 in a bassinet in our room until she was 3 months. It helps to have the bub in your room whilst they are so small. If my house was not so small I would have kept them in our room for longer.

[teachmum]

My first two slept in our room and never had any trouble moving to there own room. Their cot went with them so everything was familiar. This time I can't fit the hammock in my room so when he's restless I just bring him in our bed anyway . It depends on your bub. All of mine seem to be comforted by being close by.

[tan32]

Both of mine were in bassinetts wiht DD it was for the first 12 weeks, then we moved the bassinett into the room and then she went into the cot, with our DS it was different we moved into a much bigger house and the childrens rooms are way down the other end of the house so DS spent a bit longer in our room and we moved the cot in until i felt comfy with him being down the other end of the house. This bub will go in the bassinett in our room and then go to the cot in his room as DD and DS room are right next to his. I guess though it will depend on how well he sleeps

[krysalyss]

It is perfectly natural (in a biological sense) to have bubs in your room. Our DS turns one on Friday and he is still in our room. Co-sleeping (which as FionaJill said also means them sleeping on your room) has many developmental benefits. It is our culture of putting them in their own room that makes us uncomfortable about it.
As many of the other women have pointed out, it is also very practical to have a young bub in your room as it will make the night feeds and changing quicker and easier.
Firstly, I would question, exactly what it is that makes you uncomfortable doing it and then make a logical decision. Don't be worried about moving them out later. You are unlikely to have trouble if your bub feels secure, happy and confident. This comes not from spending time alone, but from trusting that your needs will be met by your parents.
As far as the basinette goes, we found one to be very useful especially for day sleeps as we could move him wherever we were and it was easier to keep him warm over winter.
Hope this helps!

[MrsFabuloso]

My dd has slept in our bed or our room since birth and shes about to turn 1. We are going to put her in her own room in the next few weeks since no 2 is on the way. But Iwoul have had it no other way. I love having her close.

[MistyFying]

Both of mine slept in our room for about a year (a little longer for DD, a little less for our independent little man). I had no problems shifting them to their own rooms when the time was right for us.

[visitor1]

We put DD1 straight into her own room from birth...and swore id do the same with DD2.

But wasnt to be. She was in our room until about 10 weeks old, then moved to her own room. Main reason was i was BF her and couldnt be bothered getting up and walking all the way to the other end of the house. At 3 weeks i stopped feeding her, but was then to lasy to move her cradle (until 10 weeks).

Bub #3 will go straight to his/her own room for sure!!!