newborn in parents room?

[BekZ]

We had DD1 in a porta cot in our room until she was 4 months and DD2 in a bassinet in our room until she was 3 months. It helps to have the bub in your room whilst they are so small. If my house was not so small I would have kept them in our room for longer.

[teachmum]

My first two slept in our room and never had any trouble moving to there own room. Their cot went with them so everything was familiar. This time I can't fit the hammock in my room so when he's restless I just bring him in our bed anyway . It depends on your bub. All of mine seem to be comforted by being close by.

[tan32]

Both of mine were in bassinetts wiht DD it was for the first 12 weeks, then we moved the bassinett into the room and then she went into the cot, with our DS it was different we moved into a much bigger house and the childrens rooms are way down the other end of the house so DS spent a bit longer in our room and we moved the cot in until i felt comfy with him being down the other end of the house. This bub will go in the bassinett in our room and then go to the cot in his room as DD and DS room are right next to his. I guess though it will depend on how well he sleeps

[krysalyss]

It is perfectly natural (in a biological sense) to have bubs in your room. Our DS turns one on Friday and he is still in our room. Co-sleeping (which as FionaJill said also means them sleeping on your room) has many developmental benefits. It is our culture of putting them in their own room that makes us uncomfortable about it.
As many of the other women have pointed out, it is also very practical to have a young bub in your room as it will make the night feeds and changing quicker and easier.
Firstly, I would question, exactly what it is that makes you uncomfortable doing it and then make a logical decision. Don't be worried about moving them out later. You are unlikely to have trouble if your bub feels secure, happy and confident. This comes not from spending time alone, but from trusting that your needs will be met by your parents.
As far as the basinette goes, we found one to be very useful especially for day sleeps as we could move him wherever we were and it was easier to keep him warm over winter.
Hope this helps!

[MrsFabuloso]

My dd has slept in our bed or our room since birth and shes about to turn 1. We are going to put her in her own room in the next few weeks since no 2 is on the way. But Iwoul have had it no other way. I love having her close.

[MistyFying]

Both of mine slept in our room for about a year (a little longer for DD, a little less for our independent little man). I had no problems shifting them to their own rooms when the time was right for us.

[visitor1]

We put DD1 straight into her own room from birth...and swore id do the same with DD2.

But wasnt to be. She was in our room until about 10 weeks old, then moved to her own room. Main reason was i was BF her and couldnt be bothered getting up and walking all the way to the other end of the house. At 3 weeks i stopped feeding her, but was then to lasy to move her cradle (until 10 weeks).

Bub #3 will go straight to his/her own room for sure!!!

[kristy J]

we put Isaac in his own room with no problems. in a cradle, we had an angel care monitor. he is an awsome sleeper.

Our bedroom is grown up space. a place for love and romance etc... i think our children take up 95% of our lives and we give it to them with joy; but that last 5% still needs to belong to our relationships, husbands, partners, etc.
I know so many people who's relationships suffer from having baby in their room at night. A private grown up space is so important.

[smiles4u]

We had our daughter in a bassinette & then the cot til she was about 18mths in our bedroom.

... I just loved waking up in the mornings to see her sweet lil face staring at me. It was the best part of my day

She started sleeping in her cot in HER nursery when she was about 18mths old. Though most of the time she wakes up about 2am & ends up in our bed now, so at times I wonder if it was the best thing for her.

BUT having said that I could NEVER have imagined putting a newborn in a room all on their own. OMG I was just terrified of SIDS, etc ..

Those gadgets to detect SIDS to put in their nursery wouldn't have made a difference to me. I just wanted to hear her breathing myself

[kristy J]

BUT having said that I could NEVER have imagined putting a newborn in a room all on their own. OMG I was just terrified of SIDS, etc ..

Those gadgets to detect SIDS to put in their nursery wouldn't have made a difference to me. I just wanted to hear her breathing myself

Its sad that this (sids) happens. It is just the worst thing for any parent. unfortunatly if its going to happen it will. there is nothing anyone can do to stop it. i know someone who lost a baby to sids and her baby was in her room.
but if the mum sleeps better with baby in their room than its better for mum to have them here. I was the opp where i didn't want Ike in our room at all, i did everything i could to prevent sids but then put it out of my mind.

[Zee]

We had DD room set up with a cot etc but i brought a bassinette and had it in our room till 6 weeks when she started sleeping through the night without a feed so i moved her into her room then but kept her in the bassinette for awhile longer before moving her into the cot.

I found with DD in our room beside my bed every lil noise she made I sat up to look at her to make sure she was alright so barely slept... I will only keep Lucus in our room till he sleeps through the night and then he will be put in his own room.

[Mollygirl]

I had both of my kids in my room next to the bed for the first 3 months approx, until they grew out of the bassinet. I loved it because when they woke for a bf I just picked them up and didn't have to get out of bed (one was born in winter and one in summer). I would highly recommend it. DH learnt to sleep through the noise.

When I moved them to their cot, in their room, I put them in a snuggle bed first so they didn't get feel too overwhelmed with all the space in the cot.

Both are well adjusted to their own rooms and neither have ever slept in our bed or come into our bed at night. If i had more room in our bedroom I would have the cot in there for about the first 9 months (SIDS recommend 12 months I think) but there just isn't the room.

Goodluck - do what you find comfortable, happy Mum = Happy Baby.

[~Jo~]

I loved the basinette for the first few months. Its so handy to move all around the house and to have that break when you want it during the night...however brief. We have had our babies/toddlers in bed with us until 2..having said that ..Sammy is 3 in August and is still very reluctant to try out his own bed so likes getting into 'mine pot in da middle of mumma and daddee'

So makes lovemaking interesting....to say the least. You go FJ!...looks like you guys are keeping it very interesting!

Jo

[muming]

I have to agree with many of the posts, that co-sleeping is the way to go. Both my girls slept in our room for 1 1/2 years and the cot is still in our room ready for the next one in June. The first one slept in our bed, the second I bought the cot and took one side off and had it up against our bed. Then if we wanted a bit of space, I'd just roll her over into her cot. Breast feeding was easy, and I couldn't imagine having to actually get up several times in the middle of the night, especially in winter! If we were to start all over again, we would just buy a king size bed instead! Both girls share a room, and had no trouble transferring.

PS Krysalyss made some excellent points.

[MummyDuck]

Like Kristy the only reason why we had automatically thought we would put her in her own room was to keep our space. Its less about dtd for me but just about our room being OUR space, I don't want to lose every bit of time we get together without a baby. I want to snuggle and be close with dp when its time for us to go to bed. I still do not want a toddler in our bed all night but in saying that I am looking forward to her getting up early in the morning for hugs in our bed - if she chooses, or coming to us when she has a bad dream. I dont want to banish her from our room I just want some time for just me and dp and when she is alseep is the best/only time.

After discussing the whole thing with DP we decided to move the portacot into our room for the first 6-8 weeks (but thats not written in concrete) and she will sleep in there at night - more to keep me happy then the baby!!! Her day sleeps will be in her cot in her room so she is used to her space and bed, hopefully making transition easier.

At 6-8 weeks we will have a monitor in bubs room (which we already have anyway) and she is right next door which I think makes a BIG difference. I think I would be a little uneasy if the room was in the opposite end of a big house but in our case the cot is against the wall that is shared with our room.

Thanks for everyones input...... it was all fantastic and really gave me something to think about. I do feel a lot better already knowing that I will be able to hear her breathing and she is safe with us. I am anxious enough about everything else that comes with parenting so it feels nice to know this is something I can stop worrying about now.

[Danielle]

DD was in the room with us when she was newborn, couldnt stand the thought of having her away from me and I constantly was checking on her making sure she was breathing whenever she slept long periods. This time around the baby will be in our room while he's little too cause his room is right next to DD's room and we really dont want to be dealing with one waking the other all night long. Wouldnt be fair to DD she needs her sleep too.

[*Efjay*]

Its funny, I use a bassinet that is right at teh hight of the bed so I have it right near my pillow when they are new new borns (DH is uneasy about having them that tiny in bed as he tends to sleep with lots of blankets) When I moved them from there to the cot I was moving them like half a metre further away from me, I was so un easy about it, no way I could move them from my room all together LOL

[didispunk]

I really couldnt stand having Ben in our room.. any noise he made i got up etc.. i was not getting any sleep myself.. and DH had to get up to go to work so i didnt want to feed in bed either.. So.. wiht the next baby straight into its own room.