newborn in parents room?

[~Jo~]

I loved the basinette for the first few months. Its so handy to move all around the house and to have that break when you want it during the night...however brief. We have had our babies/toddlers in bed with us until 2..having said that ..Sammy is 3 in August and is still very reluctant to try out his own bed so likes getting into 'mine pot in da middle of mumma and daddee'

So makes lovemaking interesting....to say the least. You go FJ!...looks like you guys are keeping it very interesting!

Jo

[muming]

I have to agree with many of the posts, that co-sleeping is the way to go. Both my girls slept in our room for 1 1/2 years and the cot is still in our room ready for the next one in June. The first one slept in our bed, the second I bought the cot and took one side off and had it up against our bed. Then if we wanted a bit of space, I'd just roll her over into her cot. Breast feeding was easy, and I couldn't imagine having to actually get up several times in the middle of the night, especially in winter! If we were to start all over again, we would just buy a king size bed instead! Both girls share a room, and had no trouble transferring.

PS Krysalyss made some excellent points.

[MummyDuck]

Like Kristy the only reason why we had automatically thought we would put her in her own room was to keep our space. Its less about dtd for me but just about our room being OUR space, I don't want to lose every bit of time we get together without a baby. I want to snuggle and be close with dp when its time for us to go to bed. I still do not want a toddler in our bed all night but in saying that I am looking forward to her getting up early in the morning for hugs in our bed - if she chooses, or coming to us when she has a bad dream. I dont want to banish her from our room I just want some time for just me and dp and when she is alseep is the best/only time.

After discussing the whole thing with DP we decided to move the portacot into our room for the first 6-8 weeks (but thats not written in concrete) and she will sleep in there at night - more to keep me happy then the baby!!! Her day sleeps will be in her cot in her room so she is used to her space and bed, hopefully making transition easier.

At 6-8 weeks we will have a monitor in bubs room (which we already have anyway) and she is right next door which I think makes a BIG difference. I think I would be a little uneasy if the room was in the opposite end of a big house but in our case the cot is against the wall that is shared with our room.

Thanks for everyones input...... it was all fantastic and really gave me something to think about. I do feel a lot better already knowing that I will be able to hear her breathing and she is safe with us. I am anxious enough about everything else that comes with parenting so it feels nice to know this is something I can stop worrying about now.

[Danielle]

DD was in the room with us when she was newborn, couldnt stand the thought of having her away from me and I constantly was checking on her making sure she was breathing whenever she slept long periods. This time around the baby will be in our room while he's little too cause his room is right next to DD's room and we really dont want to be dealing with one waking the other all night long. Wouldnt be fair to DD she needs her sleep too.

[*Efjay*]

Its funny, I use a bassinet that is right at teh hight of the bed so I have it right near my pillow when they are new new borns (DH is uneasy about having them that tiny in bed as he tends to sleep with lots of blankets) When I moved them from there to the cot I was moving them like half a metre further away from me, I was so un easy about it, no way I could move them from my room all together LOL

[Alyssas_Mum]

It is of course a personal choice, it also depends on the baby.
We had DD in our room from day 1, we didnt buy a bassinette as i figured they were a waste of money but i ended up getting one very soon after she came home cause she didnt like the cot, too much space for her i think. Apparently they like to be kept in small spaces as its a comfort for them but every baby is different. I would personally recommend you get the bassinete.
I got mine of ebay for $30 so if it's too late to accept family one just grab a cheapy of ebay, bubs will most likely only be in for a couple of months tops. I plan to buy all new linen and matress for it anyway and its already been thoroughly washed once. lol
Good luck

[leebee81]

We had Oliver in his pram bassinet next to our bed for the first 3 1/2 weeks. From then on he slept in his cot, which is also in our room. He will stay in our room for a while - likely until he moves to a bed as I know I won't be bothered dismantling the cot to get it out our bedroom door. By then hopefully #2 will go into the cot.

[didispunk]

I really couldnt stand having Ben in our room.. any noise he made i got up etc.. i was not getting any sleep myself.. and DH had to get up to go to work so i didnt want to feed in bed either.. So.. wiht the next baby straight into its own room.

[~Belinda~]

We have had Madeleine in our room since birth. She was in a bassinette and then co-slept with us until a week ago. Now she is in her cot next to our bed (side removed, pushed against our mattress, brakes on).

Madeleine has slept through from 8 weeks old.

We tried her in her own room for a week or so but she woke up several times a night.

If we all sleep through, it works so well with us, we're not tired then and such a happier family!

[Becci]

Ds was in his cradle in my room, and then a cot in my room until he was about 10 months old. Transition wasn't a probalem for him
This time round we are using a pram with a bassinette attatchment and bubs will sleep in there in our room at night until he grows out of it. He willsleep in the pram but in his room during the day so I hope transition won't take too long.
Our bedroom isn't big enough for a cot so either way he's in his room (which is only on the other side of the bathroom from us) when he outgrows the bassinette. We have a monitor (the same one form Ds12 can't believe it still works!) too which will make me (and DBF) feel better.