Parenting after Miscarriage or Loss ~ December 09

Hello!

Just wanted to pop in quickly to say hello. I'm trying to keep up but it's hard as we're staying at Mum's!! We're having such a lovely time back in Perth.. but DS has had a bit of trouble adjusting to the three hour time difference, so we've had some very early mornings. He's absolutely loving seeing all the family and our friends though, it's gorgeous.

Anyway just a quick selfish post.. I've had some pretty bad cramping this morning and it's freaking me out!! I'm absolutely scared stiff that something is going to go wrong again. Only two more days until my scan on Thursday and I can't wait.. but at the same time, I don't want to go... I can't handle the possibility of hearing bad news again. I just don't know what to do anymore and how the hell I'm supposed to get through this. I hate this so much.. it's not fair.. why do we have to go through this and why can't we just enjoy our pg. Noone should have to go through this. Oh god... I'm extremely emotional today.. maybe that's a good sign.

So sorry.. rant over.. I think I really needed to get that out.. have been holding quite a lot in this time while *trying* to be positive. It's so hard.

Sorry guys... none of you need this right now.

Kel xxx

Sorry for a selfish post from me, but I am being induced tomorrow! Freaking out a little here. I had an OB appointment this morning and my BP is right up, just like it did at around this stage with DD so he thinks it best to get the bub out. I am really not feeling right today so it didn't really surprise me. I am 2cm dilated so he will be able to break my waters and will then give me a few hours to go into labour on my own before he starts the drip. I am much happier with this plan than what happened last time - my OB then insisted that my waters be broken and the drip turned up sooooo high right from the outset and my labour was so full on from the beginning. I am hoping it may start a little more naturally this time. I have been getting a lot of pains since my appointment too, not sure if maybe he did a stretch and sweep or something as well? Anyway, I am supposed to be resting (as if you can do that when you have just found out you are being induced the next day!) but still have so much to do to prepare for this bub. Thankfully DD's babysitters are on their way home from hols right now so that worked out well!

I will probably be back online later as I am too restless to snooze even though I should while DD is sleeping.

How exciting good luck for tomorrow Bun!!

OMG Bun!! How exciting and scary!!! Wishing you all the best of luck babe.

Im off to the OB now...

Bun - :hug: I wil be thinking of you tomorrow and sending you beautiful birthing vibes

Kel - vent away hun :hug: I am only just holding it together here too with cramping (just stretching I keep telling myself) and a nuchal scan on Thursday so I know how you feel.

BBL - little ones decided to power nap in the car so they are both awake but a little grumpy :wall: and I need to do some shopping before the IL's come tomorrow to look after the kidlets while I get scanned and then see the OB in the afternoon.

Bun: goodluck for tomorrow

LisaL: good luck at your OB appt.

Kell: big :hug: try not to worry, vent away. All the best for the scan on Thursday.

Michelle: all the best for your scan tomorrow.

AFM: Sorry i havent been posting much. I've been getting this up/down feeling for the past week and its been driving me bonkers!!, i'm on CD33 and AF hasnt shown up yet although after the D&C AF didnt show up for 37days so it's probably just my body adjusting.

Bun- How exciting!! I wish you all the best for tomorrow.

Mako - Hugs hin. I hope you and your DH get some sort of resolve with the direction you are going to take with TTC again.

Kelly - Good luck for Thursday

Lisa - have you been rushing around too much? Drink heaps of water, try and relax with your feet up. Are you getting muslce cramps? I found my BH got bad when I got muscle cramps so I took some extra magniesium. This worked a treat

Janie - Thanks for mentioning our 6 month bfing achievment. I serioulsy couln't have done it without everyone in here. Thanks everyone mwah!!!

I know this is a long time away but we are having a big family Christmas in Sydney in 2011 and I plan on meeting all the Sydney girls if possible!!!! I hope some of you are around at that time lol.

Miss Eva was 6 months the other day and I can't believe how fast the time has flown. I guess now is the time to start off loading my newborn stuff. Although maybe I should keep some stuff in case a baby boy comes my way one day.

For those who have older kidies: Did you notice a certain attitude change once your child turned 4? We are having a lot of issues with Miss Sara. She is so bossy and won't share or listen to me but at the same time she breaks down and cries and slams her bedroom door if she gets into the slightest bit of trouble.

Life at home is really full on atm for me, I do lurk often but I don't get much of a chance to post

All the very best for tomorrow Bun. How exciting ;)
I wish you all the very best for the arrival of your little man tomorrow.

BBL Little fella has just woken up and is calling out "Mum,Mum, Mum, Mum" every few seconds lol.

Ooooh Bun, how exciting! Sending you my best wishes for a wonderful birth tomorrow!! Can't wait for the BA!!

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For those who have older kidies: Did you notice a certain attitude change once your child turned 4? We are having a lot of issues with Miss Sara. She is so bossy and won't share or listen to me but at the same time she breaks down and cries and slams her bedroom door if she gets into the slightest bit of trouble.

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:lol: You've just described our DD Bek!! She's just turned 5 and not much has changed. I can handle it but it drives DH bonkers!!

Michelle/Kelly/Lisa - Best of luck with your appts. You forget how scary this stuff is when you're not prg yourself any more. You are all in my thoughts.

Bek - I'll definately be around :)

I'll be here Bek - on maternity leave too ;)

Just watching the little girl chattering away to herself, *drinking* from an empty beer bottle and saying dad da while wearing a pink BBH minkee :rofl: Cute but ......... :redface: Almost as bad as the boy seeing a diet coke and saying "mummy's coke" LOL

Bun - was very excited to read your post!!!! I've been in your boat a few times now, knowing you are going to be induced next day!!! Don't think you will sleep much tonight!! Don't let them wack you straight on a drip - there's every chance you won't need it and only need a kick start to labour away on your own. I've had both, and things are much better without too much intervention. With my DD last year, all I needed at 37 weeks was the gel at midday, my own body kicked in and she was born at 9pm. With Flynn, had the gel at 8.30am, waters broken 2pm, but my labour was very stop start - very happy with my Ob who is anti-too much intervention - by 9pm I was put on a very low dose drip, just to help me along, and my little man popped out at 11.30pm. So, point is, let your own body do what it does before bombarding it - hope you don't mind me saying so, it's just the drip on full steam is too overwhelming and painful. Your body, your choice, remember.

Hope you are feeling more 'organised' now. Order a take out and put your feet up - a brand new roller coaster ride starts tomorrow!!! I wish you a beautiful labour, and will be thinking of you as you meet the new man in your life - a son is such a beautiful thing.

Hi to all the rest of you lovely girls!!

AFM - Flynn is doing a 'bit' better on the boob - actually sucking a bit harder if only for the first 1-2 minutes - which is something, and a start of hopefully better things to come. I just had my 6 week Ob appointment - my BP is still high, despite being put on BP tablets 2 weeks ago by the GP, and my feet are still really sore and swollen. OB said it's just the hotter weather - but I know it's more than that. Blood test came back normal, wish it would settle as my feet are really sore. Now I'm discussing birth control - can any of you give me the good/bad/ugly about mirena's? This was the Ob's recommended method - I've had an IUD before but it fell out :o

Best go, DD is here and I smell poo :o

Lee xo

Bun, I hope things go well tomorrow. :hug: My thoughts will be with you.

BW

Lee - I've got a Mirena, had it in for a few months now. No time for a proper post but will BBL. If I forget, remind me!

Hi ladies - yes Bek i have been in a rush lately, so much on until the end of Jan!! Ive also been drinking lots of water so im hoping its just that I need some rest.

On the up side - OB is very happy with me, bub is doing great, me going great guns in terms of BP etc.. bubs head was down for today's appt and she wasnt very concerned about the BH's - she said pretty much the same thing about rest and getting enough fluid.

Will be eagerly watching out for a Bun BA tomorrow - good luck sweety :hug:

Omg bun, that is so exciting! Sounds like a really good plan for your induction too :). Excellent timing too! Do you have someone to do a BA for you? I don't want to be hanging on tenterhooks waiting for your big news lol! Sorry to be brief girls, i'm on my phone, bbl!

Lee - thanks for your post, I totally agree. My old OB would only induce by breaking the waters and turning the drip right up which left me in agony within about half an hour of the induction beginning with DD! This OB is happy to give me three hours or so after breaking my waters to see if things happen on their own and will then start the drip slowly if I need it. Hopefully that will make things much more bearable this time. And you are right about not sleeping tonight, I was the same with DD, it is just impossible when you know what is coming in the morning! Glad to hear that BFing is going better but sorry to hear about your BP, I hope it comes down soon.

Thanks everyone for the well wishes, I hope all goes well! Janie, Mako has kindly offered to be my birth announcer so I will be letting her know as soon as this little man is out so she can pass on the news!

Oh god guys... I'm bleeding. I've never experienced this before as both my m/c have been missed with no bleeding. I don't know what to do and am totally freaking out. I think we're going to head to the hospital. I need to know whats going on. Why is this happening again.

Sorry.. just didn't know where else to go.

Kel xxx

Kelly sweetie, if you are at all concerned go to the Dr's hun. I know it is very scary but please listen to me when I say that many women have bleeding and go on to have sticky bubs. I know you must be terrified but please don't lose all hope just yet. Get to the Dr's and ask for a scan to see what is going on.

Here for you babe :hug:

Spring xx

Oh Kelly... :hug: Bleeding in pregnancy is fairly common, but VERY scary, especially considering what we have gone through in the past. If it's bleeding without pain then chances are that things will be fine. I will be sitting here hoping and praying that everything's ok and your bub just wants to keep mummy on her toes. :hug:

BW

How much bleeding?? What colour?? Pain or cramping?? Clots??

Home all night - call me (I'll PM the number) :hug:

Oh Kelly I'm hoping like crazy that everything is all ok with your bubba.Please come back and let us know how you got on at the hospital. Hopefully they've given you a scan by now so you have some idea of what is going on. Sending you all the :stickyvibesboy::stickyvibesgirl: and :hug: I can babe.

Kelly: i'm hoping everything is ok :hug: sending you loads of sticky vibes hun

Bun: Good luck tomorrow hun. I agree with the slowly slowly approach. I can't wait to read your BA. Sending you calm labour vibes.

Kelly: Just wanted to drop off another :hug:

Lv Spring xx

Kelly, thinking of you so much hun :hug:. Sorry to drive you batty with all my text messages, I'm just worried about you xoxo. Oh, and I meant to say, don't hesitate to call Lisa, or have the hossy do it if you think it might help!

Bun, I will be thinking of you tomorrow, and waiting ever so patiently to read your BA :D. I'm so glad one of 'us' is doing it, I know Mako will be on the ball!!!! Good luck darl, and enjoy! This time tomorrow you will be holding your precious newborn in your arms :dance:. Can't wait to hear from you once you're home :)

Oh Kelly :hug: I had two major bleeds during the early stages of my pg with DD, with the last one at 14wks and it all worked out ok and she is now the light of my life. Im praying with all my heart that your little one is a sticky bub and you are spared the heartache. Thinking of you and :pray: xx

Hey guys. Thanks so much for all the messages... and thanks for all the sms's Janie.. its so lovely to know people care so much. Hope I didn't wake you by replying. And thanks for the message and your number Michelle.. again.. I hope I didn't wake you when I replied.

Well.. I'm afraid we lost the baby. Have just got back from hospital and have to go in tomorrow morning for yet another D&C. I can't believe it and feel like I'm in a really bad dream. Don't want to go into it too much (probably feeling a bit like you were Mako). Just don't know what to think or do anymore. I'm totally devistated but am thankful that I'm over in perth and have my family to help us out. Mum is incredible.

Bun - all the best for tomorrow hun.

Sorry for the downer. I can't believe it.

Kel xxx

Kelly hun, I am so devastated for you guys, so many tears :(. I'm just replying to your text now.....and I mean every word xoxo

:cry::cry::cry: Kelly I am so, so sorry that you are going through this again. :hug: It's just not fair!

BW

Kelly - like I said last night, I am so very sorry :( I was awake and immensely saddened that another beautiful woman has to experience this. Sending you love and squishy hugs this morning. I am so pleased you are surrounded by the love and support of family :comfort:

Bun: thinking of you as you prepare to meet your baby :hug: Can't wait to hear!!!

Kelly: i'm so so sorry to hear you are having to go through this again

look after yourself and i'm so pleased your surrounded by family at this time :hug:

Kelly- I am so sorry to hear of your loss. You'll be in my prayers today hun :hug:

Bun - Thinking of you too

Oh NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO Kelly. My heart is breaking again. I'm so very very sorry that you are going through this once again :crying: Like I just said to Michelle the other night...the universe is way too cruel to us at times :crying:
I'm just so lost for words right now but I want you to know that we are all here for you when you want us to be :comfort:

Bun Wishing you all the best hun.

:hug: Kelly. I am so sorry.

Oh Kelly...I'm so sorry :(

I'm glad you're with your family :hug:

Oh Kelly, I am so sorry sweety. I can imagine you must be hurt and very angry too, its hard not to be at times like this. I was quite depressed after I had my second loss and it took me ages to recover emotionally. So take time to heal your broken heart and spirit, and give your gorgeous DS extra special hugs, you will be sure to find some special comfort there. Thinking of you and your little angel xx

Hey guys :). I'm sure Kelly won't mind me asking if we've heard anything from Bun? I think Kelly knows how worried and upset I am (we all are!) for her. But it's Bun's big day, and I know I'm keen to hear how things are ASAP! Hint hint Mako, we want the goss immediately :lol: Thinking of you Bun, hope it's all progressing beautifully :). I hope you're already holding your bundle!

Thinking of you always Kel, you are on my mind all day today :hug: :hug: :hug:

Kel: Oh hun, I am so so very sorry. Please accept this cuddle from me :comfort: I am so sorry you are going through this pain and I am glad to hear that you have your wonderful family around you.

Bun: Thinking of you as you welcome your bub earthside. I can't wait to hear the news.

Spring xx

Kelly - words don't come easy when there are none that will ease your pain right now. Just know that all of us in here totally understand what you are going through and the heavy sad heart you are dealing with. So very sorry your bub did not stay. We are all here whenever you feel the need. Massive hugs xoxoxo

Lee xo

No news yet Janie..As soon as I get a text from Bun I'll let you all know ;)

Kelly I'm thinking of you hun and have been since yesterday. Give that gorgeous little biy of yours a huge hug. Sending you another though :hug: