Its not like your just being lazy Janie, its a difficult and delicate situation so Im sure everyone would understand that you need more help than a lift to the hospital or a pat on the back! You had a csection for a start; then your expressing frequently; lots of travelling; lots of time spent with D, Im betting you are exhausted. If someone didnt understand your need for 10min to yourself then they arent worth your time, if someone offers take them up on it! I would take N for you if I lived down there on my non Uni days; one more kid makes no difference to me and he would prob have a ball with my boys You deserve a medal for going through this my dear; I would have had a meltdown in the first 5 min.