Parenting after Miscarriage or Loss ~ February/March 2010

[Janie]

Mako, plenty of hugs for you, and a tiny little I hope you can feel us holding you up during this stressful time

[Freya]

Mako, plenty of hugs for you, and a tiny little I hope you can feel us holding you up during this stressful time

:yeahthat: Cant say it any better than that.

[nicjay]

Mako - rest and stay positive. Hoping like mad you get some great news in 10 days time hun

[LisaL]

Mako sweety sending you big and this is a stressful time so I completley understand your need for privacy. like mad that there will be a happy ending for you hun xx

AFM - started having some mild contractions at about 2pm - they are irregular so i cant really tell WTF is going on, but im hoping that it will lead to the real thing in a few days. Miss A has been in her bed for over an hour and refuses to sleep, she is singing to herself now cute but not so cute when she is falling asleep in her dinner plate later!!

Hope your all well xx

[LisaL]

Now she is singing Bad Romance by Lady Gaga

[Willow]

Now she is singing Bad Romance by Lady Gaga

Mako - I'm glad you've 'outted' yourself because I think you really need our support to get through the next few weeks. Anyone who doesn't respect your privacy and talks about stuff you post in here IRL well...you know who you are and so do we, so hopefully that's all that needs to be said

I'm praying hard for your little one

I haven't been around much the last few days and not sure how much I'll be around because I have my sister and two nieces and my parents here atm. Sister & co are going to stay at my brother's tonight so we won't have 10 bodies in beds tonight like we did last night

Went to the gym today for a personal training session. It was complimentary with my new membership, I'd love to add one every week but can't afford to atm. Maybe when our renos are finished. Anyway, I was pleasantly surprised to be told by the trainer that I'm actually in a lot better shape than I thought She said I'm doing well considering I haven't exercised regularly since I had DD and I've got a 7 mo baby. Didn't feel too fit when I walked out though, my legs and arms were like jelly! She recommended I start Pump classes next week so I'm going to try but I'm a bit scared!

Apart from that, nothing much happening here. D's sleep at night has not improved much unfortunately so I am starting to feel very tired. Last night wasn't too bad, he woke at 2am then 6am and back to sleep till 8am. If I could cut out that middle of the night wake/feed I'd be soooooo happy. Speaking of which, I'd better go wake him soon if I want him to go down at a reasonable hour.

[Lee]

Mako - massive, bloody huge and enormous hugs hon, and like Spring said, a little congrats are in order too. Can completely understand you must be feeling all over the shop at the moment, I'm glad you shared, so we can be here for you. Of course, I'm praying to the powers that be that this little bub can stay........... de-nile I think is an excellent place to be though. Hang in there as best you can, and keep hugging your little man xoxoxo

Lisa - holy crap, your ticker 39+ weeks, mine never got that much!! Sounding VERY interesting for you, with mild contractions, wouldn't it be nice if this bub came out now!!!! KEEP US INFORMED OKAY !!!!!

Not much for me to report, still getting ready for MIL arriving in the morning, she's 75 and has flown from Rome, so imagine she's going to be feeling a bit shattered, especially having to get the extra yards to Hobart. Figure I'll cook for her tomorrow, but ater that she's on her own

Bun - good to see you back girl, so glad youre sleep has improved!

Sorry gotta rush! Hi to all xoxo

Lee xoxoxoxo

[kellym]

Oh Mako - That's fantastic news hun, I'm so happy for you and also sending you some massive hugs.. totally understand how you're feeling. Praying that all is going to be ok. Thanks for thinking of me but I'm really pleased you've shared your news because you need just as much support (if not more) than me right now!!! Yeah, it's hard but if anyone is going to announce a pg right now, I desperately wanted it to be you (closely followed by anyone else in here or that has experienced a loss)!!!!!!

Lisa - Praying things start moving along quickly for you hun.. please keep us informed.

Janie - Thinking of you too and like I have said over and over, please let me help you out!

AFU - Have had a lovely day out at the Puffing Billy railway for a Thomas the Tank Engine show, Luke loved it. I'm already getting sad about Mum leaving on Monday though and it's starting to affect me. That and AF's impending arrival next week. I'm thinking of testing Monday morning, would be a lovely surprise before Mum leaves but as I don't hold too much hope this month, it might also make her departure a million times worse. So probably shouldn't do it to myself. We'll see, I'm sure I won't be able to help myself.

Kel xx

[~Jayne~]

MAKO _ Well done my sweets, congratulations & a zillion hugs of comfort from me. I can't even begin to imagine how scared, nervous, excited, anxious & stressed you are all at the same moment. Please know that we are all here for you & will be with you through the entire journey! xxx

[LisaL]

Still here.. went to bed last night and all the ouchies stopped, feeling a few BH's here and there today so still hopeful of going into real labour some time this week!!

Mako - thinking of you hun and like Willow said, you will need all the comfort and support of the beautiful women in this thread, god knows we have all been there before

Hope everyone else is having a great weekend,

Lis xx

[mako]

Lisa Sending you loads more gentle l/v's hun.

Kelly How did you go this morning? Did you test??? I'll be thinking of you as you say "bye" to your mum

I just want to share some good news with you all. I had my blood test done on Friday and I was scared to call my Ob to get my result this morning so when I was at my GP he rang for me and my level has risen to 18559 so I'm feeling a little more relaxed now and have decided not to do any more before my next scan next Tuesday. So now I need to take things easy and rest as much as I can and let my body hopefully do the right thing for this little bub.

I hope everyone had a great weekend. Sorry for the lack of personals lately Please know that I do think of you all often though.

[nicjay]

Mako - Yay I'm so glad the BT was good GL for the scan, take care of yourself!

Kelly - Hope you're doing OK today

Lisa - Heaps of LVs to you

Hi everyone else, hope you're having a great day.

[LisaL]

I just had to jump on quickly before i have to start peeling vegies to say Mako - those numbers are excellent honey, keep up the good work - your body can do this..

*sneaks off to do a secret happy dance*...

[kellym]

Mako - Thanks for thinking of me. I don't know much about the numbers but they sound pretty good and I'm glad it's put your mind at ease!! Will update on me below.

Lisa - Still praying things happen quickly for you.

Sorry, I'm not in the right frame of mind for more personals.. has been a VERY hard day with so many mixed emotions and I'm absolutely exhausted. Firstly, yes, I tested...... and got a BFP!!!! I still can't believe it. With DH away, I really didn't think we'd managed to get it but I have been feeling really, really tired and started getting my hopes up!! Thankfully that second line appeared and I nearly fell of the toilet!!! DH was very excited and we made DS run into my Mum and tell her that "mummy has a baby in her tummy".. needless to say Mum was thrilled too and it was nice to be able to tell her in person. Although as you all know, the excitement didn't last long and now I'm totally petrified... I just can't go through another loss... not over here on my own. It's freaking me out. We'll just have to wait and see I guess. God it's hard. And having to say goodbye to Mum today was just awful. My emotions are running hot as it is, so dropping her at the airport was not good. So many tears and driving away was so hard. I'm still crying now... and DH is out at uni tonight. It just sucks, I miss her so much and really need her now. I just feel like sh*t.

So many mixed emotions, I feel like I'm such a bloody mess right now and really need to get myself together. Doesn't help that DS has been an absolute nightmare.. never has he been so naughty and it's doing my head in. I'm starting to wonder where I went wrong and I just don't know what to do with him at times.

Anyway enough from me... sorry for the long and whingy post.

Kel xxx

[Freya]

Quiet congratulations Kelly! We'll be holding your hand along with Mako's all the way.

[Lee]

Kelly - congratulations sweety on your BFP, I really had a feeling you were in with a terrific chance. And now I have two words to say to you DE-NILE - it's the only way you are going to maintain a semblance of sanity over the coming weeks.......... can you work it??? De-nile, thanks Michelle........... just keep business as usual, yes you are pregnant, and yes that means you can't drink or eat certain stuff, but as far as the rest of it goes, de-nile girl, keep it at a safe but still healthy distance. Easier said than done I'm sure............. truth be known, I'm absolutely BL--DY thrilled for you !!!!! Remember we are all here for the journey, and pray to be welcoming your little one later in the year xoxo

Mako - SO happy you bloods are looking flippin fantastic - so great to get some good news in here - and I'm just stoked it didn't take you and Kelly months to fall pregnant again - I have a really good feeling for both of you girls this time, it's your turn for sure. Sorry, back to de-nile

Lisa - any more twitches to report???????

Spring - where are you?? How's your DH, hope he's on the mend well now. Tell Ben 10 weeks is cute enough, he can stop growing now and just stay the gorgeous little man he is right now!!! Flynn just keeps getting cuter, he's talking now,and the co-ing and go-ing just melts you, especially when combined with one of his gorgeous grins - god I love my boy

Freya - how you going hon, are you keeping life and limb together with your testosterone-charged household, illness and Uni, oh AND bootcamp tired just typing that !!!

Willow - I'm sending the gods of sleep over to your house tonight, and look forward to reading about your fantastic nights sleep in the morning ok

Janie - how you holding up babe, and how's that sweet little fella doing? Any idea how much longer he'll need to stay in hossie?

Deb - thinking of you OFTEN, are you okay sweety?

Well my MIL arrived safely yesterday, so far so good - not much to report, but she looked after Flynn while I took Remy swimming today, which is a great help to me not to drag bubba down to the pool as well as Remy. My girl is a scream during her lessons, my god she is LOUD, in a happy way, and she just wants to do her own thing, she's a bit wild I think, but I like this about her Tonight I took DD 12 years swimming at 5.45pm - with the thought that I might get out of cooking????? Had a great swim with her, but still cooked when I got home, must work on this, and stay out just a bit longer. Oh yeah, this one will make you laugh or puke - Remy had a swim in our pool with her Dad, then was running around naked and loving it, poohed on the tiles (thank god not the carpet) and the puppy ate it

Well on that note, that's about all my brain can conjure up right now, sorry to those I missed, but sending you much good stuff anyway !!!

Lee xoxoxoxo

[BekZ]

Mako - I can't top what Spring said. You've been in my thoughts lately and I've got everything crossed for your bubba. We are all here

Kelly - A little congrates to you. Sticky vibes hun. We are here for you too

Lisa - I hope you are having your bub tonight!!!! If not I hope you are getting heaps of BH because that means you are getting ready!!!

Lee - LOL at miss Remy. Glad your MIL's visit is a help to you

Well my bubba has starting sitting, crawling and standing all in one week After our horrendous week of no sleep it seems that she was going through a wonder week. All else is ok. Love to all

[mako]

Kelly A little quiet woohoo to you hun. I know how scary this time is for you and I have to agree with Lee on the land of De Nile It seems like a rather safe place to be hanging out in Have you started your low dose asprin for the ANA yet or do you have to wait a bit? I know I need to start mine as soon as I get a bfp. I'm praying so hard that this little bub is so so sticky hun.
As for Luke being naughty please don't beat yourself up over it. I know its hard but can you ignore his bad behaviour and only focus on the good behaviour?? I know its hard and we're going through a similar thing here atm too

Lisa How are you doing this morning? More L.V's coming your way.

Bek Wow what a busy little time Miss E is having atm. How is everyone else going?

Lee I'm sorry but I had to giggle at the poo incident and at Remy being the loudest at swimming. I'm pleased to hear your MIL arrived safely too. I hope she can help out with the cooking and stuff so you can have a bit of a break.

Janie How are you guys doing? Did you and DS1 enjoy the Playschool concert?

Hi to Deb,Rach,Michelle, Bun,Willow,Sequoia,BW and anyone else I've missed.